Was I wrong or right?

[Anonymous]

I got in a altercation with my dysfunctional family. My mom hates me and I won’t get into it but trust when I say bully and hate. It’s deeper than you think but trust that there are people like this out there even though it’s hard to imagine. My mom hit me physically and said some things that hurt. We both exchanged cuss. Long story short the pain for me was deep this isn’t first time police called, chaos, and everything. My neighbors could hear everything because I’m loud. I went outside and yelled, “ ladies and gentlemen, rats and mouse lives in this house, bed bugs lives here, and all the cockroaches live here” . “ there’s rats in that house” there’s bedbugs and cockroaches living in this house” repeatedly until I got tired. I saw a neighbor who looked like he had his flash on his phone so someone heard me and came out. It’s true that rats, roaches, and bedbugs live with my mom. She hurt me so I announced it like public announcement

[Oliverlogan263]

Family stuff can be really messy sometimes. Sounds like your mom really laid into you hard, I don't blame you for getting loud back. No one should have to put up with abuse. At the same time, yelling stuff about her house like that probably just made the situation way worse. I get you were hurt and angry, but airing dirty laundry in public doesn't help anything. Maybe you were looking for some payback or to get your emotions out, but next time try walking away till you cool off. Escalating into a neighborhood shouting match won't change how she treats you and probably just embarrassed you both in the long run. These deep family issues are tough - sometimes best thing is distance yourself if it's that toxic, as hard as that is. Try to stay calm next time no matter what she says, takes two to argue. Hope you're feelin better now, hang in there.

[Asker]

Yes but my mom kick me out of her house and this is not a family situation. She’s obsessed with calling me ugly for some reason. she tell me to die if I try to kill myself. She wish death upon me so many times. I have no family to be honest. She told me not to come back to her house. She told me not to drink water or sleep in her house. The house have roaches, bedbugs, rats, etc. so if she’s going to hit me and cuss me out then I think it’s okay to mention her creatures in her house

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's some heavy stuff to deal with. It doesn't sound like you'll get any support from your mom - she shouldn't be kicking you out, wishing death on you, or hitting you. That's messed up. But announcing her personal issues publicly probably still wasn't the best idea. I get you were hurt and wanted to hurt her back somehow, but that could make the situation even worse if she wants to get police involved or something.

Since she kicked you out and you don't have any other family, do you have any close friends you can stay with for a bit? Even crashing on a couch is better than being on your own right now. And I'd really recommend talking to a counselor or older person you trust - they'll know best how to help get you into a safer situation. Don't retaliate against your mom anymore, as hard as that is - focus on taking care of yourself now. You don't deserve how she's treated you at all, but saying hurtful stuff back won't change the past. You've got this, just move forward in a positive way.