Was I in the wrong?

[Anonymous]

So I met my boyfriends cousin. Long story short he was disrespectful to me. I don't know how to explain but he kept picking at me and telling me things. Like he was purposely being annoying trying to get under my skin, which he did. He is one of those people that likes to make people mad and uncomfortable etc. I don't know how to explain this part, but he kept telling me to push my boyfriend to do better and that how he has a great partner and he wouldn’t be where he is if it wasn’t for her. Well I don't know that put pressure on me cause he kept saying it and well I wasn’t thinking straight and I found him annoying and I just wanted him to shut up so I asked for his number so that he could give me the information so that I could get on my boyfriend into doing it. (Really I wasn’t going to get on my boyfriend, I trust him that he will do great in life and be successful) I just did that so that he could stop telling me things. My boyfriend got mad at me and found it weird that I kept asking for his number but I only did it so that he could leave me alone about his whole career thing. I don’t understand why he kept telling me to get onto him. Like couldn’t he do it himself? My boyfriend was right there, why was he pushing me to do it? Hopefully this all makes sense. And I find it to be unfair cause my boyfriend does not understand how much pressure his cousin put into me. I also found that it wasn’t fair how his cousin kept mistreating me and how my boyfriend did nothing about it, he just sat there quietly letting him do that, but when I ask for his number cause I was under pressure I am in the wrong. Yes I could’ve handled the situation differently but I was under pressure and that was the best I could do at the moment, I am someone that does not do well under pressure. And I am just upset about this whole thing

[BeyondBirthday]

Leave him, if he couldn't see how you were feeling attacked and he didn't protect you. It will happen many more times and he will let you down. So if you can't handle that leave.

[Summeroflove]

Don’t take disrespect and have boundaries with people. Some people feel they can do what they want

[Guy13]

It sounds like a difficult situation. Good luck with the cousin and boyfriend.

[Danny_dan92]

Talk to your boyfriend about it. Have him address it since that’s his relative

[Asker]

Well I don't know he never told him anything

[Danny_dan92]

Ok. Then say something

[Asker]

I did. I told him of how he got mad at me and how he did not tell his cousin anything

[Danny_dan92]

And?

[Asker]

Well he said that I am still in the wrong for asking for his number, he didn’t like that. He said my cousin was in the wrong too for how he treated me. The thing is that my boyfriend lashed out on me when I did that and he did not tell his cousin anything about his behavior, only me.

[Danny_dan92]

Why did you ask his cousin for his number?

[Asker]

So that he could send me the information that he was talking about but really it was so he could shut up already. Me asking was like “ okay send me the information so that I can get onto my boyfriend about it “ so that he could stop bringing it up

[Danny_dan92]

You should’ve just said right there to pull it up on his phone… that would’ve made more sense and would’ve saved you the headache

[Asker]

Yea I know 😕

[Danny_dan92]

Oh well, all you can do now from this is apologize and move on

[Asker]

So I have to apologize even though I never got an apology and was the one that was being mistreated

[Danny_dan92]

Then ask yourself if you are happy being in this relationship. Honestly. If this one event is such a deal breaker, then split.

[Danny_dan92]

No point crying over spilled milk