So I have been on Tinder for 2 years now. Over the course of 2 years I have had around 300 matches and have probably messaged about 2/3’ds ofy matches.
Many start conversations. But here’s the problem: I have never met up with a single girl off of Tinder on all my time using it.
Even now, I have around 100 matches and have around 7 ongoing conversations and they start out well and then flatline. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. So I’ve added screenshots here with names and photos of the girls blurred out because I am not trying to put anyone on the spot or anything like that. I am just legitimately bewildered at what’s going on.
So here’s some of my conversations:
girl 1: Girl 2: Girl 3:
Girl 4: Girl 5: Girl 7:
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So. There are others. But as you can see, I have tried different approaches. I have tried being sexually explicit, jokes, comments about a profile and sincerity.
They seem good at first. And then nothing becomes of them (some of them flop right at the start though, lol). So what’s the deal? How can I improve so that I can actually meetup with one of these girls (or more than one) IRL?
It sound unnatural and worse unoriginal in some of those. Start with something a little flirty or playful and it's even better if you can reference their profile.
Build up a little momentum by sounding normal and flirty if you didn't start that way, then ask to meet up. There isn't a magic time or message limit, but a night (or two) or 10-15 total exchanges if they're replying back quickly worked well for me.
In short, you should ask to meet up earlier rather than wait around. You're less likely to lose their interest, less likely to say something stupid, and you'll both get more out of learning about each other in person
Because you say cheesy stuff man just keep the convo simple till you get to know them better I've been ghosted on dating sites but I also ghosted 2 girls just keep it cool
Because what the fuck are you saying , you don't sound human. More like a computer with bad jokes. Also you want to get laid on there your not serious.
That’s not first time someone has said I sound robotic. I’ve actually failed one of those ‘captcha human tests’ before. No joke. Kept asking me to pick traffic lights and then said I wasn’t human after I sat there and did it for 10 min.
I think my brain is just very sequential and procedural. I think extremely logically and literally, in a step by step methodological way. Like, ‘if this, then that’ but I took a bunch of logician courses in college and that might be part of it.
So you think maybe they think I’m a bot? Lol. Man wtf.
Sounds like you see their picture and not reading the profile. Don't flirt. You don't have that skill. You are coming off like some creeper who just wants sex. Read their profile and find something you find an interest in. Talk about that to her and absolutely no sex talk or cock talk.
Don't bother dude, every chick is going to give you different reasons. Most chicks look for any reason to filter you out, cuz they have tons of options, so they can filter as much as they like. For them it's just getting boring, cuz hey have so many options and you're standing here and looking for some deep causes and meanings, trying to analyze and stuff. Lol, just don't.
I am sorry, but neither of your messages are decent or even funny. Too much sex, over confidence or other girls mentioning (you got buried in my other matches). I wouldn't have replied either. I suggest you stop being flirty and start being nice.
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