Does this reasoning sound like an excuse or reasonable?

[Anonymous]

I recently started dating a guy I’ve been friends with for a while, we’ve always had good chemistry but we clicked more on a weekend away together to the point he told me he has strong feelings for me when the weekend came to an end I sensed a shift in his behaviour as he took me home, he didn’t text me for a couple of days so I asked him if everything was ok with us straight away he gave me a lengthy message about how he doesn’t have time right now to start anything with me as he can’t give it his full attention , he’s in the middle of a lot (moving (pretty much homeless in his mates house as on hard times) coming of a drug problem etc , he is a lovely person though and the best guy I’ve ever known , he has great communication and is so kind , I asked him if we could still speak and see each other as I was upset and didn’t wanna lose the connection he said he didn’t want the distraction whilst he’s trying to sort his life out but kept reassuring me it’s not me it’s him that just needs the time to sort his things out before he can enjoy a relationship as he has really fell behind , he kept saying it over and over to reassure me but as he requested space away from me I’ve granted it him and have gone no contact, not heard from him for about 2 weeks although we ended on good terms I want him to have the space to sort his life out as I’m quite accomplished and know being around me might also be quite a difficult thing for him atm whilst he's struggling I don’t want to add to his struggles but I keep thinking in my head (probably as I’m very anxious in relationships) is this just an excuse a cop out or should I have patience for him and try to understand more, just looking for opinions to sort through the overthinking mess that is my mind :(

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, that's a lot goin on for sure. Honestly it doesn't sound like total bologna to me though.

When a dude's life is all chaotic, it can be hard to focus on a relationship too, ya know? Moving around unstable and sorting shit out, I get why he wouldn't wanna mess with feelings and drama on top of that.

Plus coming off drugs is serious, gotta keep his head on straight. Having someone new could make that way harder. And he probably feels like a mess still if he ain't stable yet.

I say believe him that it ain't you. Dude seemed real about it, giving you a lot of explanation and reassurance. And he was chill about staying friends still, just wanted space which I respect.

Give it time like he asked. Keep your distance for now so he can nail his crap down. Once he levels out who knows, maybe you guys will sync up better then when the timings right on both sides.

No point trippin on maybes though. Just do you and check in on him sometime lowkey if you wanna stay cool. But sounds like he's fr, just a lotta personal stuff goin down is all.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he needs some space to figure his life out

[Anonymous]

Cop out or not, this is his final choice. He’s not asking you to wait around for him or try to understand him, he asked for one thing and that is space. This, to me, is all that matters right now in present time.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t you help him be supportive of him? Why won’t he allow that?

[In_Trance]

Seems reasonable