I recently started dating a guy I’ve been friends with for a while, we’ve always had good chemistry but we clicked more on a weekend away together to the point he told me he has strong feelings for me when the weekend came to an end I sensed a shift in his behaviour as he took me home, he didn’t text me for a couple of days so I asked him if everything was ok with us straight away he gave me a lengthy message about how he doesn’t have time right now to start anything with me as he can’t give it his full attention , he’s in the middle of a lot (moving (pretty much homeless in his mates house as on hard times) coming of a drug problem etc , he is a lovely person though and the best guy I’ve ever known , he has great communication and is so kind , I asked him if we could still speak and see each other as I was upset and didn’t wanna lose the connection he said he didn’t want the distraction whilst he’s trying to sort his life out but kept reassuring me it’s not me it’s him that just needs the time to sort his things out before he can enjoy a relationship as he has really fell behind , he kept saying it over and over to reassure me but as he requested space away from me I’ve granted it him and have gone no contact, not heard from him for about 2 weeks although we ended on good terms I want him to have the space to sort his life out as I’m quite accomplished and know being around me might also be quite a difficult thing for him atm whilst he's struggling I don’t want to add to his struggles but I keep thinking in my head (probably as I’m very anxious in relationships) is this just an excuse a cop out or should I have patience for him and try to understand more, just looking for opinions to sort through the overthinking mess that is my mind :(
Does this reasoning sound like an excuse or reasonable?
