Would you stay in a relationship with someone that isn’t really that attracted to you , but they love your personality?

[Finchie40]

A girl friend of mine told me she loves her husband, but she isn’t attracted to him physically , she claims she never was even when they met , but she loves his personality and the way he treats her. I was honestly amazed by this and told her she is talking out her ass , She swore she was telling the truth. So why would she stay in a marriage with someone that she isn’t really attracted to? And have sex with a guy she isn’t attracted to? She claims she doesn’t cheat on him and I said bullshit lol , She said nope she isn’t a cheater. Would you marry someone you weren’t physically attracted to just because they have a great personality?

[Dinklex3]

Nope. If I did that I’d have to marry all my friends.

It’s different for everyone though. Some people value different things. An old friend said she married her husband because he liked her and he promised her his GI bill 💀. Didn’t think he was attractive. They had 2 kids by the time I met her and ended up divorcing when the kids were like 13.

Some people even marry because they’re afraid no one else will love them. I know two people who did that.. both divorced and happy. Everyone has different reasons for getting married and sticking to a partner I guess

[Finchie40]

Sadly people make dumb decisions in life and lack common sense when it comes to giving their heart to someone that really isn’t getting their heart in return , why so many relationships and marriages fail , especially these days

[LaurenM1997]

No I rather be with someone who is attracted to me and loves my personality I wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t like my personality and is attracted to me that’s fake love

[HawkPerception]

I would want my partner to be physically attracted to me. I know that looks fades, but I'm still at the age where it matters and I put effort into maintaining my health and appearance by working out and grooming myself. It would genuinely hurt if my partner said they were not attracted to me. Personality does matter more. Like you wouldn't even be talking to someone if they had a shitty personality, but looks do matter.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

No, why? ultimately something is going to happen. Those types if relationships eventually degrade with be or the other partner figuring out they need more, and they cheat when a super attractive person hits on them or the less attractive one finds out the partner "settled" and it hurts them too much to continue the relationship.

You can find such scenarios in relationship advice forums, reddit etc. It always ends badly

[Finchie40]

Yea that’s pretty much what I was thinking as well , me personally could t stay with a girl that I wasn’t physically attracted to , but apparently
Girls’ can

[Artificial Intelligence]

Jumping into the wild world of relationships, let’s talk about the intriguing case of your friend. Love, my dear friend, is a mysterious and multifaceted creature. It's not just about physical attraction; sometimes, people fall head over heels for someone's vibe, their soul, their essence - you get the drift. Your friend seems to have found something deeply compelling in her husband’s personality that outweighs the lack of physical attraction. It’s not as uncommon as you might think! Love can grow in the most unexpected places. Would I personally marry someone I wasn't physically attracted to? For me, physical attraction is an important piece of the puzzle, but let's not forget, the heart wants what it wants. And who are we to judge? Love is about connecting on multiple levels, not just the physical one. Sometimes, that deep, soulful connection is the strongest aphrodisiac. So, let's just say, in the grand scheme of love, there are no hard rules. It's all about finding that special someone who lights up your world, in whatever way that means for you. 😉

[Paris13]

It would Be Hard... xxoo

[red324]

I think women are more likely to do this. They fall in love with who he is personality wise, then end up loving his looks too because thats who he is if that makes sense. More likely that older women would do this. A younger girl probably just wants a hot guy with a big dick who she can make her friends jealous with

[avery58]

No.. Feeling desired is part of a healthy relationship

[AmyHew1tt]

No, absolutely not. Mutual attraction is a must.

[DishLady]

Nope. There's no point in pushing that envelope if you're not on the same page.

[Chazmatazz269]

I wouldn’t get into a relationship like that in the first place. Women are always looking for the BBD. If she doesn’t absolutely love everything about you, she’s gone as soon as she finds a guy who can top those things she doesn’t love about you.

[tzdc21]

Nope. Look I get that looks fade and personality keeps you in, but you gotta find me at least somewhat attractive physically as well to make this work.

[KarinMcDonald]

I can only speak for myself. I do have a need to be desired.

[Finchie40]

I am the same way , i will not stay in a relationship with a girl that doesn’t find me attractive , I would trade her in for someone else if that was the case. I don’t see any passion in a relationship if a partner isn’t physically attracted to you , I would just consider her a friend and go find a girl that is physically attracted to each other and fuck her brains out lol

[CrabCakes11]

I would. Appearance isn’t that important to me as long as they aren’t ugly. Looking ok is fine

[hellothere90]

A lot of people marry someone they're not physically attracted. Sex isn't that a big deal. For me, I will not marry someone I'm not attracted to.

Everybody's different.

[Anonymous]

No. What would be the point?

I would have told her on some level he has to know this. Either that or she is lying to you for some reason. And that brings up all kinds of questions of why she would make this up.

[Finchie40]

Apparently he doesn’t know , from what she told me , so I told her if he knew the truth , he would probably be hurt big time and probably reconsider his relationship with you. I couldn’t be in a relationship with a girl that didn’t find me physically attractive , I would assume her ass was going to end up cheating on me with someone she thinks is more attractive. But apparently girls’ don’t look at physical attraction like guys’ tend do

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, but that's my point. Why would she share this with you. There's almost ALWAYS a reason why women do stuff like this. You're a f***ing robot if you don't know this is hurtful. So she has to know how bad this makes her look. So either she's a complete f***ing idiot or she's toxic AF.

[Finchie40]

That did cross my mind as to why she was sharing this with me , I did feel like she was flirting with me somewhat when she implied it would be nice to be with someone she is attracted to again , but then she said but I am married. She knows I slept with married women before that I didn’t know was married until after the fact , so it’s funny you said this because it did cross my mind that maybe she wants me to fuck her. By the way she was telling me all of this.

[Anonymous]

Many men use women for sex and personality. And they aren’t a ounce attracted to her. They use her as placeholders. I have been checked out by so many of these taken men , right infront of their partners

[Finchie40]

Don’t get me wrong , I know there are guys’ that can just stick their dicks into any vagina , but why pursue a relationship with someone you aren’t attracted to begin with?

[Opinion Owner]

It’s called place holders. Using someone to fill the void

[Finchie40]

So basically they are more than likely to cheat on them

[Opinion Owner]

Cheat behind their backs. Not physically but emotionally and intellectually. In extreme cases it’s physical.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

No, I want him to crave for me and get him super excited every single time.

[Tstrbrainer]

I think you have that effect on me.
Maybe we should go out

[Nikki1989]

Yes because that is all that matters in the long run.

[Finchie40]

True but , why would you even want to have sex with someone you aren’t physically attracted to , to begin with?

[Nikki1989]

Because you don't need to be within reason, of course. I probably would never get with a very obese person, but that is an extreme example.

[Finchie40]

I know her husband and he is a good guy , but he is overweight , she told me she prefers thinner guys’ but she is happy with him for his personality? I ask her how her sex life was and she said it’s ok , but told me things she didn’t like about sex with him , I was like than why are you with him if you don’t like sex with him?

[Finchie40]

Me personally couldn’t have sex with a girl that I wasn’t physically attracted to to to begin with , so it shocks me that a girl can

[Nikki1989]

I don't really give it much thought. If I like a guy, his personality, and we have things in common, not much else matters.

[Finchie40]

That’s interesting to hear , thank you for answering this for me , I learned something new about girls’ lol I always assumed physical attraction was important to girls’ for the most part

[nawtee_me]

Some people just want to be taken care of and will have sex to keep them. It is not about anything physical as much as it is about the security

[Anonymous]

no. I'm still young and attractive, I don't need to settle for an old aging man.

anyone can marry someone they aren't attracted to, you just won't want to get physically close to them

[Anonymous]

As a guy probably not, but women do this because they are not focused on the visual as we are and are more attracted to the personality, more emotional attraction than anything and looks fade after awhile anyway and women know this

[DextroShade]

As long as she puts out.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Or they're only in it for physical list lol 😔😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

Lust lol 😆

[Anonymous]

That's what we call 'like', not 'love'.. don't we