I was trying to help a girl one time get on her feet I gave her a few little jobs I would lay her everyday. Just so she could have money in her pocket for food for whatever at the end of the week she was broke she just got kicked out of her apartment I honestly think that she had been kicked out the week before I go. I'm not sure
Anyway she had no place to go they said I'd let her stay a week at my house but she had to find some place to live
I mean she was a good looking girl and everything but she just wasn't right for me
Good night she came into my room instead of my bed was talking with me and Nixon and I were making out and I was telling myself no no no it will never work out it don't do it but I did it
And the next day she was acting as if we were girlfriend and boyfriend and I told her I said look it's your good girl you're nice girl you're beautiful and everything that we're just not compatible and she said how do you know you don't even know me
And I probably knew more about her than she knew about herself I just told her I said I just know it's not going to work and she goes well can we at least try it I said yo cuz this going to end up bad and I don't want that to happen I'd rather just be your friend so that you wanted to it's been another week at my house and let me know if given her tons of money and I was tired of that I told her you have one more week for that was it anyway when night she asked me if I wanted a massage or back rub or something and I said sure and of course you know where that led to but I kept telling myself to the whole thing don't do this it's never going to work you're not going to be happy well 6 months down the road I told her she had to leave and it took me another three months to get her out of my house so of course the answer to your question is yes
When I had girlfriends, we were always infatuated with each other at first. But after a few months something would make me realize that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with her. I was young and might have pictured what she would look like when she was old. I don't know. I was just too young to think about settling down. I was interested in experiencing life and having fun.
So, in those younger years, although I never cheated on a girl, I would eventually meet someone else. At that point, I would just stop seeing my girlfriend and start dating a someone new. I didn't want a confrontation and didn't know how to tell her that I was moving on. It was a dick thing to do. I felt bad a the time and feel worse now. But in the long run, it was better for both of us. Those girls loved me, but they went on to have happy lives, get married and have kids.
A few of my exes even became friends with my current girlfriends and everything was amicable. I'm still friends with my very first girlfriend. She's a happy grandma now.
I have. I saw so many red flags. I put up with things I shouldn't have put up with. My trust was broken. I was lied to. I was treated bad. I was hurt over and over again. I tried to leave many times but he always begged me to stay and made me feel guilty for wanting to end. Also, I gave in to being in a relationship when my father was very ill and I was scared that I couldn't save him and I'll be all alone. I considered him a good friend back then. He assured me that he'll stay with me through thick and thin and how he really wants me to give him a chance to prove that his feelings are real. He liked me for years, so I thought maybe he wouldn't ever hurt me. I should trust him. After him insisting me to give this a try, I did and truly regretted it. My gut instinct was right when we were new friends. That I shouldn't ever be with him.
Most times I know I should end it because the guy is not as invested in me as I am to him, but it really hurts because even if he is not mine, I am still invested but the only guarantee I have is that if we are separated, my future would be better because even if he one day woke up and realized my worth, I would always be resentful for how long it took him or what had to happen for him to realize it. I'd never have that security that he authentically wanted me and would put in the work to preserve what we have. I have stayed until he is at some point making excuses and ignoring my messages to where I gave it the time to play out, and unfortunately I was right and should've ended it at the first instinct.
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Yes, I have but I stayed in the relationship because of my to boys. this was in the late 80's and early 90's and if you got a divorce in those days in this state you might as well kiss those kids goodbye but I found a fantastic lawyer that told me he would get my kids for me and I told him if he lost them that I was either going to Texas or Alaska. So I went into major dept with him but he did what he said he was going to do. I had to claim bankruptcy but it was so worth it I wasn't going to lose my two boys to her, bye the way at that point in time Texas & Alaska were the only states I knew of that would NOT make you go back to your home state for taking your children across state lines. Of course that did not happen and my lawyer even got her to pay me child support that I was not expecting. I am very proud of my two young men, my oldest is a MARINE and did 3 tours in the sand box and my youngest has his own business, both married with kids and I would do it all over again if I had to. I love them both very much and would die for them... I'm getting off my soap box now.
I did once for a very long time but mainly because I was so attracted to her. I was smitten even though she was so incredibly difficult. I think I developed the codependency kind of love where I became attached to her words and the idea that she loved me and needed me all the time even after everything she put me through.
I was extremely foolish in hindsight but the way she was so incredibly difficult to get along with might have also contributed to how deeply I was falling for her. She made things needlessly difficult all the time, but I think I became attached as a result of all the difficulties I faced.
It was also incredibly passionate albeit both in the very best and the very worst of ways.
Not so much knowing that I should have ended it as being 75% sure that it wasn't going to last too much longer.
Stayed because it was the middle of a longer lock-down and the task of leaving and restarting in another place was daunting, and I clung to the 25% hope that it might all turn out okay when the pressure of isolation let up, and also because there was a lot of history involved that I thought I should try, somehow, to rescue.
Got helped out of that illusion when I was informed that the other had another thing going on, and not just since recently. I mean, please, who goes out to work in an exempted emergency profession and finds the time and place to cheat?
Whatever, it was the push I needed to accept the reality that I was already aware of and get on up and out of there.
It was comfortable. We were having great sex and for the most part we were doing good stuff for eachother.
But I knew she wasn't dependable and I didn't want to commit myself to being loyal to her for that reason. The last straw was when she couldn't pay her half of the rent because she decided to get an $800 tattoo.
Keep in mind, I had been working my ass off working 3 jobs supporting both of us for months. And when she got the highest paying job she'd ever had which I was a major part in her getting, do you think I asked for the money then? I said babe, I'm really happy for you, don't worry about rent this month, just enjoy yourself.
The fact she was so surprised when I broke up with her is how I extra knew it was the right choice.
i just started dating this girl, at first i thought she was nice, but the more time passes, the less i feel inclined to make contact with her.
i've never been in a relationship, so how should i feel and when and i don't know if i should still give it a chance or to just end it.
i even had the thought of keeping it going a bit just to gain experience of trying to be myself with around a woman that has interest in me, and resisting the reflex of shutting down into a generic blank personality. but I don't know, it seems unfair to her and a bit to me as well.
I was in a rather abusive relationship with an ex that was an interesting time in my life
She did and said a lot of things that made me want to leave but more or less blackmailed me into staying with talking about suicide and things like that eventually I gave up on that relationship entirely and noped out
That wasn't the only thing she did there were a lot of other things but the list would be tedious and the thoughts would be very strenuous on my mind because it was really bad
I was young and regret that stage of my life
Yes. My ex husband was an addict. When we got together, he said he'd had a drug problem in the past. I was too young and naive to know what that meant. After 4 years, he relapsed. We pretty much lost everything by the time I did leave. I stayed because I felt like he needed me, and I thought I could save him. I was very naive.
I've been married to a functional alcoholic for 9 years. I've stayed w/him so long b/c we've been thro a lot of stuff together despite his drinking problem. When u hit ur worst of the worst, but also the best of the best times and there's a person right by your side each time, it's hard to let them go. In the beginning before we married I was blinded by the sex and fun times.
Because the memories that’s the hardest part, it’s like how did I live years of my life living with this person creating with them, having a vision for our future and it’s just not going to happen, they are going to leave and I will never see them again. Haha still don’t know how to deal with this any advice?
Was very one sided and I was not getting out of the relationship the things I wanted, instead just excuses. Was afraid this was going to be my only shot at a relationship so had to make it work.
Even now it's over, I'm still not getting hit on, or given any approach signals while I'm out. I've expanded my social circles and still no-one seems interested, trying to trim down at the gym but it's having no effect.
As a kid I was "dating" older men, I knew I was too young - in some cases under 15, which is the age of consent where I'm at but I was "mature" for my age & I craved the "affection". That craving was stronger than listening to the warning bells.
I've also been in abusive relationships, I knew I shouldn't stay because who wants to be beaten to shits but at that time, I didn't think I was worth more and that was what I deserved, so I stayed.
s Fear of being alone. Back when I was struggling the most with my mental health, I was extremely codependent and relied on romantic partners to keep me afloat. So even when I was being cheated on, abused, assaulted - It took a lot for me to leave them.
Honestly, this has been my longest relationship, first marriage! I think the fear of being alone and starting over and not knowing if I “made the correct decision” or not or what if I “regret it” later. Sex is amazing (the rare times I get it, due to his medical reasons) I have become more open minded with him, and enjoy sex with him a lot.
From the picture you posted I think only 2 were N/A but for the most part all of them were for me.
it’s hard to let go not knowing what will happen next
I voted the middle choice, but that’s not to say that any relationship I’ve been in was without multiple challenges. My husband and I have worked through many issues, and there were certainly times where I wondered if I should stay in the relationship or end it. I’m glad that I stayed. Eventually my point got through his stubborn brain and vice versa. The photo supplement to your question is something everybody should read.
I didn't know better, plus I lacked self confidence and wasn't sure about my worth. I did end it a few times but it ended up becoming an on off thing.
I learned from it and then finally left and never went back.
But I'm really grateful for that experience, it teached me a lot 🙏🏼
Yeah, I fell for my friend. She wasn't my wife. My friend and I both wanted to keep it going; I kept telling myself she was just my "friend"- my wife knows her, it's all okay. This was even after I had keys to her place, after we hung out together alone, after she asked me to come over whenever I wanted; buying each other fancy stuff. Friendship or not, it was emotionally too much for me so I ended it
I had a 4 year relationship with somebody that lived 1500 miles away. She put very little effort into the relationship and I always felt that I was not a priority. I probably had self esteem issues and thought that nobody else would want me. I finally got tired of it and broke up with her over the phone.
I have been staying in that relationship and know it will end one day cuz everything going bad, but why do I stay? Because I can’t leave , I still love him , I still want him but then there’s one day I don’t love him anymore so I just leave without a reason.
Sadly it wasn't going any where, i was as bad but he wasn't putting in anything. It was meet up at his have meal , sex. And the same thing the following night. At one time he gave me the same two nights on the trot. Sadly the rut was getting deep i got out while i could..
I did, I ended itz just not when I should have. She was abusive. I was not permitted to talk to anyone of the opposite sex, including family because and I quote "men are inherently bad and can't be trusted"... Any time I chose to talk to a woman, I was hit a lot, some times enough to leave me bleeding. I finally kicked her out and she sliced my face up for doing that.
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