Why does this coworker avoid eye contact with me?

[Anonymous]

I feel like he tries his best to avoid looking at me even though he is social and has no problems with holding eye contact with others. When he talks to me he makes no eye contact but smiles to himself since he is very friendly. He also only adressed me with my first and last name while calling everyone else by their first name, even new acquaintances. I feel like he tries to keep only me at a distance. Why? I never made advances at him

[RavVid]

Are you interested in him? If so it could be he recognizes that and counterbalances.

Or he has the hots for you and is counterbalancing that.

There is something sexual going on, of that we can be certain.

[Asker]

Im not interested in him as a man but I think he seems very nice and I admire his accomplishments

[RavVid]

OK. So he is not picking up your interest because you don't have any. So that means he fancies you but trying to make it non obvious that he fancies you.

[Anonymous]

Why does he have to have the same relationship with you that he does with others? We are all ✨different✨ for a reason and sometimes our personalities aren’t going to mesh with John’s how John’s meshes with everyone else.

[Asker]

No, he acts the same with everyone except me so only I am different

[Opinion Owner]

So you watch each interaction he has during your entire work shift together? I’m sorry but you don’t see everything and you’ve created a biased opinion because you feel left out.

[Asker]

I notice because I’m not blind

[Opinion Owner]

But are you watching his every interaction all day? No, you are seeing them sporadically and relating it to yourself.

[Asker]

You don’t get it do you? You don’t have to watch everyone to notice things.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes you can notice things, but what you’ve taken notice of is an issue of your own creation and that’s what I’m saying. There is nothing wrong other than the fact that he isn’t giving you the same attention and engagement as he does with other people. You refuse to answer me when I ask if you watch him during the entire shift because you KNOW that you don’t. As a result of that, you do NOT see every interaction he has with each coworker to assume you are the only one he isn’t locking eyes with and giving certain amounts of attention.

[Abbycado]

He doesn’t like you for some reason. Who cares? You are there to do a job, not socialize.

[Asker]

I don’t think he dislikes me

[StevenMcGarrett]

Not sure. You struck a nerve with him. I'm not sure if it's good or bad. But he definitely knows you.

[Asker]

What do you mean „he knows you“

[Nikki1989]

You shouldn't be messin with coworkers anyway.

[Alex-Snow]

He just may be shy or insecure. How old is he? Maybe he is new to dating, sex or girls? Do u like the guy?

[In_Trance]

It's a job, not a dating club.

Get back to work