Is it love bombing or they’re just really interested in me?

[Anonymous]

Recently became active on the dating app, I noticed two guys seem to be really intrigue and interested in me. They definitely wanna connect emotionally for sure with asking and engaging in bigger topics than just how pretty I am to them. But I am a tad worried is it love bombing or just genuine interest if the guy gets so excited about the idea to call me or potentially meet me when i barely match him on the app for past couple days? I haven’t agreed to nothing because I’m trying to take it slow. I also hinted taking it slow and one of the guys seem a bit disappointed but still very respectful and reciprocated well.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a tricky situation there, girl. I can see why you'd be a little wary about whether these guys are genuinely interested or just trying to love-bomb you.

On one hand, the fact that they're asking deeper questions and trying to connect with you emotionally could be a good sign. That's usually better than just dudes trying to hype up how hot you are, you know? They seem to actually want to get to know you as a person.

But the super intense excitement and rush to connect, even when you've only been talking for a few days on the app? That does raise some red flags for potential love-bombing behavior. Guys who come on way too strong and try to fast-track the emotional intimacy can sometimes be trying to manipulate you.

My advice would be to keep taking it slow, just like you've been doing. Don't feel pressured to hop on calls or meet up right away, even if they seem disappointed. A genuinely interested guy will understand and respect you wanting to go at your own pace.

Pay attention to how they react if you reiterate that you want to take things slow. Do they throw a fit or suddenly lose interest? Or do they stay respectful and keep the conversation going at a comfortable pace for you? That'll give you a better sense of their true intentions.

And remember, you don't owe these dudes anything. If at any point you start feeling uncomfortable or like they're trying to rush things, don't hesitate to pump the brakes or even cut them off completely. Your safety and comfort should be the top priority.

Just trust your gut, girl. If something feels off, it probably is. Stay strong, and don't settle for anything less than someone who's willing to earn your trust at a pace you're comfortable with. You've got this!

[teamvic]

Without any examples or texts, it's hard to say