Spend the night Daddy?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been getting to know someone long distance months now.

We have seen each other once a month since then. Only for a hours though. So I don’t know him well I am aware. There is more to the back story on this. Single parent, busy life. Same for me no kids though, but life is busy.

We have already slept together. First meet. But this last week we finally spent the night together. Everything was good. Now I am noticing him pull back. Reminder we live long distance and communication is key. But the consistency is not the same. Because we aren’t dating I don’t want to bring it up. Should I exit the situation? Or allow him the space like I have been?

[bowenw]

If you're not feeling a spark and one doesn't happen, I suggest you consider moving on.

[Asker]

I am though! I think we are so used to searching for the spark that we forget that feeling at peace it’s better! It’s the first time I felt like that. But now I’m like is this normal. Are we both scared

[bowenw]

I don't think it's normal for a guy to pull back after the first night together. Usually the first night is something special that people want more of. There is always the risk with long distance relationships that when you do eventually spend time together, that it doesn't live up to expectations. Like you say, communication is key, so be sure to be honest with him and tell him to be honest with you about what he is feeling.

[Asker]

No so the context is all wrong we have been seeing each other for 3 months. But we finally spent a whole night together

[bowenw]

Thank you for explaining that. It still seems weird that he is pulling back after that spending a night together. Perhaps he is embarrassed about something.

[Wise4myage]

I think you slept with him way too soon.

[Asker]

I disagree. We have been seeing each other for 3 months. Also we had sex the first night we met. And he has never stopped texting calling checking in. But I sensed something different this time. I don't know

[Ariesman81]

Allow the space. But the chasing feels good.

[jahaims]

He is in it for sex

[Asker]

I disagree. We have been seeing each other for 3 months. Also we had sex the first night we met. And he has never stopped texting calling checking in. But I sensed something different this time. I don't know

[yuviii20012]

YEAH ITS GOOD

[Asker]

lol what does that mean