Sleeping with the father of my kids?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex broke up cause it felt like we were constantly arguing and he wasn’t making much effort for the family wanted to spend most his time with mates , we have been seperated for about 3 months he left when our baby was 2 weeks old , the last couple of days his been suggesting things towards sleeping together , he knows I still care and love him but he says there is no hope for us but when we hangout with our kids together all our issues seem to disappear I really want to work things out am I stupid for holding on to hope that he might change his mind

[beenherebefore]

Listen, I get what you're saying and how you feel but if he's telling you there's no hope for the both of you you better believe him and take it serious. He doesn't seem to want to have a committed relationship with you and likely won't be the partner you wish he would be for you but he likes the fact that he can have access to you. My best advice is establish some boundaries with him, keep it friendly for and around the kids and let him know that he only has access to you as the mother of his kids and not as a booty call or a friends with benefits but if he ever wants to take things to the next level that you're open for it but also live your life and do not hang around waiting for him because he may never be ready to be in a relationship with you. You have babies to take care of focus of them and on yourself. Wishing you the best of luck and a bright future for you and your family.

[Sebastian100]

That's a big NO! He just wants to use you for sex now. If you let him then you'll be the one responsible for him using you

[Anonymous]

If you like being used for his sexual release, ok

[Anonymous]

Good for you.

[Abbycado]

Alright.