My dad being against me sleeping naked?

[Anonymous]

Today, I heard my dad say one of the most dumbass things I have heard. I am 16 years old (turning 17 next January). He said that he noticed me sleeping naked every day and asked me why I do that even when it's not hot. I didn't really give much of a response. I think I told him at one point that I just like it.

He then goes on about sternly asking, "What the hell are you into these days? Where the fuck is your mind?" (he didn't actually use those words but that's sort of the tone he was using)

"This is what losers do. You should be focusing on your studies and making friends and not stupid things like these, and be a good kid and start listening to us, unless you want to end up like a low-life."

I told him that there's nothing wrong with this and I have been doing it for a long time anyway.

I think he's becoming more suspicious because I tried to watch Sex Drive yesterday. Now a few days ago, I sneaked watching The 40 Year Old Virgin while my dad was gone and my mom was pissed so she wouldn't let me on to play League of Legends. Well yesterday, my dad decided to ask the roadblock question, "What are you watching?" and when I refused to tell them, they said they wouldn't let me watch it unless I tell them. They said they don't have a problem with me watching R rated movies (I just told them it was R rated) as long as it doesn't have anything inappropriate. My dad was like, "You're 16, but really you're 12/13," and I am pretty sure he's just saying that because he doesn't know that I have secretly lost every ounce of my sexual innocence already and have been consuming erotic material for over a year (but then again, why would I let him know).

As a side note, I have wanted a girlfriend for a long time, not JUST for sex. I am actually interested in a fullbown solid romantic relationship and have been desperate for one for the last few months and I think they are picking up on it since they have noticed other "changes" in me.

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And if I was to have sex, I would use alternative methods (such as oral) so as to negate the risk of pregnancy, if I could actually get a girlfriend. Just saying, before you start bombarding me about all the risks and stuff.

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I also AM relatively a good kid in that I am not out dong illegal stuff and being mischevious and doing drugs like some other teenagers, but I AM growing up and my parents are failing to come to terms with this.

[Ishocnar]

Ok sleeping naked, no biggy it should not be an issue. "He doesn't know that I have secretly lost every ounce of my sexual innocence already and have been consuming erotic material for over a year". Maybe you secretly don't know that he has it figured out already. You say you are a good kid but dont say anything about your grades or if you do your chores around the house. I am not tryign to bash you or anything but this really seems kind of one sided. I find it hard to believe your parents are just being mean to you when you come right out and say you lie to them and keep things from them when they ask dirrect questions. Maybe you should try to put yourself in their shoes and see what they see. I do not believe they are trying to stop you from growing up but maybe they are asking you to slow it down a little.

[Asker]

My grades are A's/B's in mostly honors classes so far. Of course there will be bias because this is only from my viewpoint.

Then again, why? Why should I tell them about my sexual experimentation? Why do they need to know?

The problem with your last sentence is that there is nothing to slow down. I am already pretty much completely desensitized and used to pornographic and explicit content.

And it can't be true that they secretly already figured it out because he explicitly said yesterday, "You're 16, but really you're 12/13," implying that they still think I possess sexual innocence.

[Ishocnar]

Maybe this will help. I have a son that is 17. He thinks I don't know that he is sexually active but I do know. He has been watching p*rn now for about 3 years and thinks I don't know that either but I do know. I have caught him watching p*rn and have heard him talking about having sex with his GF. He also acts like a 13 year old sometimes. Being able to have sex does not make a person a man or even grown up. So I guess what I am saying is maybe they would like you to slow down until you better understand what being grown up really is before you find yourself in a situation where you have no choice but to be grown up.

[Asker]

Except that can't be possible because the only time I watch p*rn is on my phone and I do that either in the bathroom locked or at night under the covers (and I lock my phone with a passcode).

[Ishocnar]

If you are watching it on your phone and he pays the bill I am sure he knows. Because the bill lists all usage. and if you wants he can go back and look up anyplace you have visited on your phone.

[Asker]

You mean all browser history? Because if that's true man, I am pretty sure he would have confronted me about it. I remember sometimes I would do a simple google search on his laptop and if I didn't clear the history he would ask me about it, and this is for normal everyday things I searched.

[Asker]

Our data plan is unlimited, however the speed is reduced after 1 GB.

[Ishocnar]

I am afraid so. But in my case I do not say anything to my son because I understand he is a teen and has his curiosity. Besides it would hurt his feelings if he knew how much I know about the things he does. But I do wish he would slow down a bit a learn more about life than just sex. I am not saying this is what your parents are doing just that it could be. Sometimes just looking at the possibility will help you understand what they are hoping for their son. It may seem mean or even unfair but it is love and caring and doing their best to look out for you the only way they know how to. The is no real guide book for the perfect parent and each of us simply does the best we can and hope that our children at least try to listen to what we mean.

[wuhsin88]

Get a job. Then you can worry about getting a girlfriend. I'm tired of seeing young women get ruined by loser punks such as yourself with no job. I'm tired of seeing chicks who are 7 months pregnant working 8 hour shifts to pay the electric bill for their boyfriend to sit around and play League of Legends or some shit all day. I'm a gamer myself, but I work. I am a lumberjack. If you think getting a job at McDonald's or Walmart is too fucking hard, then you deserve to be castrated. Try toting chainsaws uphill through briar patches in 115 degree weather when you are alone every night, and see how you feel when you watch jobless punks such as yourself out there knocking up girls every week for a few years.

[Asker]

I am actually considering getting a job man. I have been planning that out too.

And I can't get laid man. I suck at talking to girls and can't get dates (struggling dearly with this), but that's a separate issue that I am working on.

[Asker]

I want to get a job actually, for various reasons.

[Asker]

I am going to bring this issue up today actually (was planning to). So this reply was kind of coincidental.

[wuhsin88]

I think if you get a steady job, maybe your dad will be more forgiving. Us older men just know the consequences of teenage boys running around thinking with their dicks. Not that the girls getting knocked up are any better, of course.

[Asker]

Like I said though, I would wait to be in an exclusive relationship first before even thinking about sex and even then I would wait until my girlfriend was comfortable with it and wanted it herself, and then I would still take steps to negate the risk of pregnancy.

[Asker]

But it's not even about that right now. My dad's just pissed because he's picking up on my interest in sexual experimentation.

[Asker]

(in terms of masturbation) and me watching R rated movies that he probably speculates is related to that stuff.

[Asker]

*thinking about HAVING sex

Of course, since I naturally have a high sex drive at this age, I will be often thinking about sex.

[wuhsin88]

The only thing that truly negates the risk of pregnancy is celibacy. I know plenty of girls who were on birth control when they got pregnant. My 1st cousin is one example. Also, just because a girl thinks she is ready for sex, doesn't mean she really is. Girls at that age don't really know what they need, only what they want. Young people are so desensitized to sex because it's all over TV and the internet nowadays, they think it's normal to start bumping uglies soon as their public hair sprouts. Remember, sex is for making babies. Have you ever had to change the diapers of any younger siblings, or wipe their ass after they finish shitting? Because that's what you're gonna have to do when you have a kid. Imagine living with a retarded midget for 10 years, because that's basically what they are. Little people who don't know shit, who you have to constantly watch like an eagle because they're likely to try playing with the kitchen knives, or stick a fork in an electrical outlet.

[wuhsin88]

pubic* not public, damn spellchecker.

[Asker]

But there is no risk of pregnancy if you do oral sex or just resort to handjobs. What I was saying is that I wouldn't pressure a girl into it and push the issue like many other guys do.

But like I said man, we can worry about that when I actually get a girlfriend (which will at the very very least take me months). Right now I am talking about my dad being pissed at me for sleeping naked and wanting to watch R rated movies which isn't really going to have any effect on me at THIS point given how much sexual content I have already consumed under the covers and having masturbated for over a year now.

[wuhsin88]

You're right about oral being less risky, long as no herpes are involved.

As for your father, he is going about this in a pretty overbearing way, I'll admit. He does have legitimate concerns, though. Plenty of teenage boys such as yourself end up knocking a girl up, and having to work some minimum wage dead-end job the rest of their lives. A lot of them apparently can't even score a job flipping burgers or something. You could try talking about it with him, but I imagine it would be fairly awkward. Just try to keep your grades up, maybe get a part-time job if you can. Even if it's just flipping burgers or something, it will make it easier to get a better job later. Plenty of high school drop-outs even score better jobs than college graduates just because they have something called work experience. It doesn't matter how educated you are, not many people will employ a 20-something year old that has never worked a job before.

[Johannaxo]

Seriously? You live home with your parents. If they don't want to see you naked that's umm NORMAL. It won't kill you to keep your cloths on. You can walk around your own house naked all you want when you move out. Seriously if you're such a good kid, don't cause unnecessary drama with your parents. Its not that hard to listen. Or just keep disobeying them, talking about how good of a kid you are and come on GAG to complain... That's gonna help. Not!

[Asker]

Read the other comments. They don't actually see me naked. They can only deduct that I am by seeing my clothes fallen on the floor sometimes and seeing a little bit of my shoulders. I am actually covered up.

[Johannaxo]

Besides the point, your dad wants you dressed in his house. No reason to argue with him about it.

[Asker]

I AM dressed in the house, just not when I am sleeping. And when I get out of bed, I am dressed so... that's a moot point. It's not like he's ever seeing me naked.

[Johannaxo]

Lol fine keep pissing your dad off about it. w. e FYI part of growing up is learning to be respectful.

[Asker]

It's my body and my choice.

[Asker]

I am just trying to understand: why does he have a problem with it? He thinks that's what "losers" do. What? And like I have said repeatedly, it's not like he's actually seeing me naked.

[Asker]

And by the way, I won't have to listen to them in a couple years anyway and YOLO.

[Johannaxo]

Its his house and his rules, that's where you have to learn respect. Your dad does everything for you, I bet he even bought you the bed you sleep on. Its not so unreasonable that he asks you to sleep with cloths on. If you don't understand that well, I can't help you.

Your dad saying that you're acting like a loser or something, I don't know you or him to know where that is coming from. I'm sure its not only about you sleeping naked or watching movies.

But it sounds like your dad wants you to respect him, his house and do the best you can. You can learn to be more respectful of your parents and improve yourself to do the best you can, or just keep having problems with your parents and whining about it.

Just because you don't agree with your dad doesn't mean that you shouldn't listen and be respectful. You say you're growing up, good, prove it. In that case, you should be well on your way to living on your own in no time so it shouldn't be a big deal to you anyways.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

do u have ur own room? can't u lock ur doors? when i lived at home i slept nude all the time but i locked the doors in case someone was to be rude and barge in

[Asker]

I have my own room. I don't close the door but then again:

"But I pretty much fully cover myself. It's not like I am sleeping naked with no covers.

Of course he can tell either from the clothes that have fallen on the ground or from the peeks of my shoulders."

Now if I start doing that (closing and locking the door), he will know for sure something is up and then probably confront me about it even more, especially because he always walks into my room in the morning. Maybe these kind of outbreaks and rebellions are good though. It will give 'em a bit of a reality check that I am not an innocent boy anymore.

[Asker]

Wait never mind though, the problem is the water jug is in my room and they occasionally use it at the middle of the night and in the morning too (I use it too but then again it wouldn't matter to me if I locked my door since I would still have access to it).

[zombiebabe]

it ain't cool dude... your family should understand that you're a teen and that its this particular moment where you're discovering sexuality

[zombiebabe]

thanks for MH

[BertMacklinFBI]

damn your parents sound like they won't trust you one bit:P tell them that a user on GaG was raised in a way that his parents trusted him with everything and he turned out fucking Awesome. plus sleeping naked is fucking awesome! best sleep I ever get, especially since its so fucking hot right now. no way anyone is making me sleep in a fucking shirt and or briefs.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with sleeping nude, wtf. Your dad sounds like an asshole, my dad was like that too. Blow up and call me demeaning shit for the most stupid little things. He's probably just like that because his own dad was like that to him and now he takes it out on you.

[Opinion Owner]

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[Anonymous]

As you know, there is nothing wrong with masturbating, in fact starting at 15 is pretty late, I started when I was 12. But its not so unusual for parents to not want their 16 year old sons to stop watching p*rn, as it can consume a lot of their time when they should be focusing on other things. Your sex drive will start to decline after you are about 20 so make the most of it

[Anonymous]

His house, his rules. If he doesn't want to walk into one of his rooms and see shrimp dick he doesn't have to.

[Asker]

But I pretty much fully cover myself. It's not like I am sleeping naked with no covers.

Of course he can tell either from the clothes that have fallen on the ground or from the peeks of my shoulders.

[Asker]

Of course, I am going to keep doing it though. It's my fucking body. I can do whatever I want with it.

[Opinion Owner]

I've never heard of such a request, but it is his house I suppose. I don't know why he's going into your room while you're sleeping anyways.

[Asker]

He comes into my room in the mornings.

[Opinion Owner]

If he has to come in and wake you for school, dude you've got to respect that. What man wants to walk in looking at his sons dick? Just wear boxers.

[Asker]

He doesn't. I use an alarm now. At least he wouldn't have to if he didn't want to. And like I said, I am pretty much fully covered so all he can see is a little bit of my shoulders and my head.

[Opinion Owner]

How does he know you sleep nude?

[Asker]

Oh... well sometimes my clothes fall on the floor, so I assume he picked it up from that along from seeing a little bit of my shoulders.

[Opinion Owner]

Well that's completely dumb. Just keep sleeping how you want, make sure your clothes are hid, and what he doesn't know won't hurt him.

[McC0530]

Ahahaha, stop sleeping naked and jacking yourself so much, and quit being a bitch. Also, do you parents really still ground you and stuff? Do your parents still spank you lol? When I was 16 I was smoking pot and stealing shit, you sound like a bitch tbh

[BertMacklinFBI]

he hasn't figured it out yet he already knows bruh. im just answering the question title since I remember this post from before hahaa

[Alexz0]

It's none of his business. And no big deal either. I have slept naked my whole life.

[Unkowngirl]

What you sleep in isn't really there business.

[Asker]

Exactly.

[Unkowngirl]

Your parents seem strict. Are they?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You need to start being a little stealthier.