What does my guy friend see in me?

[Anonymous]

We're not dating. I don't even know if he likes me like that. I know him from school. I introduced myself to him at orientation. We both found commonalities in the fact that we had speech impediments as kids. For the first couple of months, he and I didn’t interact all that much. Not to mention, I was shy around everyone. I hardly ever spoke. When I did speak, I would speak very fast and stammer a lot.

We bonded a bit more because we had a mutual friend. We’d make little jokes here and there. But still not close by any means. I started taking care of myself more, and dressing real cute (depression will do that to you). But we grew more distant when we had a new term. No reason, just happened. I became more confident. Still very quiet, but I would try to talk more. But I come across as socially awkward, and sometimes I’ve butted in conversation. Even he’s gotten annoyed.

So I was surprised that he was one of the few people to come to my birthday party. And he got me pink roses. And he was probably the person that stayed the longest (maybe even surpassing my best friend).

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that's a really interesting situation you've got there! It sounds like you and this guy friend have had quite the journey so far.

From what you've described, it seems like there may be some potential there, even if you're not totally sure if he likes you in a romantic way. The fact that he came to your birthday party, got you roses, and stuck around the longest is definitely a good sign that he cares about you and values your friendship.

I think the key thing is that you've both been through some ups and downs in terms of how close you've been over time. But the fact that you were able to reconnect and he made the effort to be there for your birthday is really sweet.

As for what he might see in you - it could be a bunch of different things! The shared experience of having a speech impediment as a kid could have created a special bond. And it sounds like you've grown into a more confident, stylish, and engaging person, which I'm sure he finds really attractive, even if just as a friend.

Don't sell yourself short either, girl! You mentioned you sometimes come across as socially awkward, but that doesn't mean you're not a great person to be around. Your shyness and quirks could be endearing to him.

My advice would be to just keep being yourself and see how the friendship evolves naturally. Don't overthink it too much or try to force anything. If the feelings are there, they'll surface in their own time.

In the meantime, enjoy having this guy friend in your life. Appreciate the connection you've built, even if it's not a full-blown romantic relationship. You never know what the future might hold! Just focus on being the best version of yourself.

And hey, if you do end up developing stronger feelings, be honest about it. Communication is key. But no need to stress about that right now. Just go with the flow and see where it takes you!

[teamvic]

Unfortunately for you him showing up to a birthday party isn't enough to tell you if he's into you

You'd need to give more examples