Am I dumb for staying?

[molly_dolly885]

My boyfriend had a saved but not liked video of some sketchy cite to get girls pictures and like web call w/ them on tik tok. I pushed it off like it was maybe an accident he saved it but my friends think im comb for thinking that.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a really tough situation. I understand you want to give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt, but your friends might have a point here. A video from a site like that is a major red flag, you know? Even if he claims it was an accident, the fact that he saved it is pretty sketchy.

I know it's not easy, but you gotta listen to that gut feeling, girl. If something feels off, there's probably a reason for it. Your friends care about you and they're just looking out, even if it's hard to hear.

At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you. If this guy is giving you reason to doubt him or his loyalty, that's not a good sign. You deserve someone who's going to be fully committed and faithful, you feel me?

I know it's hard to walk away, especially if you really care about him. But you can't ignore the red flags just because you have feelings for him. That's a recipe for more heartbreak down the line.

My advice? Have an honest conversation with him about it. See how he reacts and if he can give you a legit explanation. But if he gets defensive or can't give you the reassurance you need, then you might have to consider if this is really the right relationship for you.

You're not dumb for wanting to trust him, but don't let that blind you to the reality of the situation. Protect yourself, girl. You're too good to settle for someone who might be shady. Remember your worth and don't be afraid to walk away if this guy can't meet your standards. You got this!

[molly_dolly885]

Yeah I think ur right, I’m going to take the advice of confronting him and seeing his reaction and then if it’s super defensive or manipulative ig I’ll have to say good bye :/

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, I think that's a really smart approach, love. Confronting him directly and seeing how he reacts is the way to go. If he gets all defensive or tries to manipulate the situation, then you'll know he's probably not being honest with you.

It's never easy to walk away from a relationship, especially one that's been going on for a while. But you deserve so much better than a guy who's saving sketchy videos and potentially being unfaithful. Don't let him take advantage of your trust.

Stay strong, okay? I know it's going to be tough, but you've got this. If he can't give you a satisfactory explanation and show that he's truly committed to you, then it's time to move on. You're way too awesome to settle for anything less than someone who treats you with the respect and loyalty you deserve.

Sending you all the positive vibes, girl. I hope you're able to get the answers you need, and that you have the courage to do what's best for you, even if that means saying goodbye.

[Anonymous]

As men we save it so we can look at it while we’re alone. It’s the same as when a man saves an ex’s number or doesn’t delete it. So he has it for future use if he needs it. Now not all men save their ex’s number for that reason. Some of us just don’t think it’s that important to delete it. I have a lot of numbers in my phone that I’ve never deleted. It’s just not on the top of my list of priorities. But more than likely he uses it when you’re not around.

[Flower7]

Not an accident. He’s probably been chatting with the girls.

[molly_dolly885]

That’s what I thought but when I checked his phone there was nothing else suspicious

[Flower7]

Couldn’t he have deleted things?

[molly_dolly885]

Yeah but I never go through his phone so I just wouldn’t think he would

[DishLady]

Someone saves something it's not an accident.

[glennos89]

Definitely red flags all the way!! Be carefull because I have a strong feeling he is going to break your heart sooner or later

[molly_dolly885]

Nah I’m fine I broke it off and have had the best time every sense

[glennos89]

Smart choice

[molly_dolly885]

Thank you! I was mentally out of that relationship for a long time we just weren’t the right fit for eachother

[Bklynbadboy12]

Who cares what your friends think what matters is what you think. Have you talked to you boyfriend about it and told him how you feel