Why would a guy like you, pull back and like you again?

[Anonymous]

A guy initially seemed interested, then pulled back quite a bit, seemed distant and a bit cold and now is back to flirting, playfulness, smiling, always coming to see me etc. it’s confusing. 😬

[Summeroflove]

Well there is some possibilities because I can’t read his mind but the most lighthearted option is that he just isn’t sure hisself. Maybe he has mixed feelings, maybe he feels attracted, interest dwindles, or he gets nervous, has time to think and comes back. But if he keeps doing this don’t pursue it. Find someone who genuinely is into your and will show equal effort.

The other options are more sinister one is he’s playing mind games narcissists do this to keep control over people as well as just make them question themselves. What did I do wrong? Why is he pulling away? Am I crazy? Was he ever into me?

Another thing is that he’s fishing for supply narcissists need attention and keeping as many people feeding them as possible. Maybe he started finding someone new but that diddnt work out so he went to someone he had on the back burner.

Some people play games. They play hot and cold. They play hard to get. They play these silly ass games that end up chasing someone away from them. Someone whose wanting a genuine connection and someone who genuinely likes them back.

[nicfire171]

Maybe he was into you and thought you weren’t interested so pulled back, but then realized he still liked you.

[Asker]

Yeah ok, but does he like me?

[nicfire171]

I’d say probably yes

[Asker]

Ok thanks

[Anonymous]

It's possible you are both sending mixed signals and don't know how to interact with each other.