Is he not interested since he said this?

[Anonymous]

The guy i like it seems like he maybe keeping his options open and i didn’t know. So i texted him and asked “ if you want looking for anything serious then why did you let me come over “ and he said “who said i wasn’t”

[Anonymous]

No, He is not interested in something serious with you.

[Asker]

What made you say that

[Opinion Owner]

Because he is showing you that his options are still open. If you didn’t see it or feel it then you wouldn’t have sent that text and he would’ve done more to reassure you. He didn’t care.

[Asker]

But he also said he assumed I’m keeping my options are open but they are not

[Opinion Owner]

Then you guys really need to have a grown up conversation about what’s going on. There’s no good reason for him to assume anything when he could just ask, and vice versa. If it’s too much of a challenge to have that convo with him then that’s a problem.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you ever told him you want something serious?

[Asker]

I e had sex with him and i also spend the night with him and hold him

[Asker]

I always ask to come see him i compliment his send him text with kissy face emojis

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah but all those things don’t necessarily mean you want to work towards a serious relationship with him. That’s why he assumes your options are also open because you aren’t telling him how you feel. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable sometimes girly.

[Asker]

I can do all that and he still thinks I’m not interested

[Opinion Owner]

If he’s one of those guys then he is projecting. Like a man who keeps asking if you’re cheating but you’re not, it’s because he’s cheating. Same thing here.

[Asker]

Well he isn’t asking am i cheating or anything like that though

[Asker]

But i do text him asking to see him sex with him cuddle and hold him in bed spend the night

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds more like a situationship, which isn’t fair to you because you’re loyal to him but not his girlfriend

[Asker]

So do i tell him im interested or go with the flow

[Opinion Owner]

Definitely tell him you’re interested! That way if he’s playing games then you can decide if you want to continue with him or not

[Asker]

Ok thanks so much for your answers

[Opinion Owner]

No problem good luck

[LiamS95]

He's playing you, almost guaranteed.

[Asker]

What made you say that

[LiamS95]

His reaction to your question. It was defensive