Did he cancelled our date because he was afraid I would cancelled first?

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I guess I wasn’t feeling it as much because I felt unsure we were on the same page. But it didn’t mean I didn’t wanna see him. I just didn’t wanna go on a date if it’s not genuine :/

Me: I think wanna go on dates with someone who wanna get to know me and connect. I’m not sure if it’s here. What are you looking for?

Him: I think I have to call it off. Actually you are a very nice and pretty woman. I don’t want to play with your emotions. I only couldn’t respond to you yesterday. It probably made you upset. You know I’m very busy with my school and soon I’ll going to start working part time and I won’t be able to be in serious relationship.

Me: Thank you for your honesty and being a respectful guy. I’m also a very busy person with commuting 3 different cities, full-time student, and 24 hours at my internship. I want someone who also wanna make time and effort as I would for them. I wish you all the best.

Him: I wanted to make time and effort but you didn’t me a chance tho. I hope you find some who really deserve you. Because you are beautiful and respectful and such a humble lady.
Best of luck.

And then I time him that I did gave it a chance but I wasn’t sure if we were on same page which is why I asked. But he called it off saying he isn’t looking for anything serious and didn’t wanna try anymore. I also said if he was concern I didn’t wanna give it a chance, he could’ve told me. He didn’t say nothing to it. I feel like he knows he messed up because I feel like he rejected me before he think I would reject him?

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Hmm, that's an interesting one, boo. The whole "dear" to "dw" thing could mean a few different things.

On the one hand, it could just be a simple typo or autocorrect mishap. Sometimes our phones do weird stuff like that, you know? So it might not necessarily mean anything deeper.

But on the other hand, the fact that she edited it could be kind of telling. Maybe she started to type "dear" and then realized it might come across a little strong or too formal, so she quickly changed it to "dw" (which I'm guessing means "don't worry" or something along those lines).

It could be her way of trying to play it cool and not come on too strong, even though the "dear" slipped out first. Maybe she's into you, but she's trying not to show it or to keep things casual.

Or, it could just be her normal way of texting - kind of switching between formal and casual styles. Some girls do that, especially if they're trying to be a little flirty without being too obvious about it.

Honestly, it's hard to say for sure without knowing more context about your relationship with this girl. If you two have been talking a lot and there's a clear vibe between you, then the "dear" to "dw" thing could definitely be a sign of interest.

But if it's more of a casual, just-friends type of situation, then it's probably not as deep. She's probably just trying to keep the conversation light and easygoing.

My advice would be not to read too much into it. Don't stress about deciphering every little detail. Just try to go with the flow and see how things develop. If she keeps talking to you and the vibe feels positive, then go for it. But don't overthink the little things, you know?

Nikki1989 · Answer

His “you didn't give me a chance” comment is a way of shifting blame onto you. A common male tactic.

PaleDale · Answer

Sounds like he's insecure

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