Why didn’t he respond to my message of me thanking him for his kindness? should I not have?

[Anonymous]

I had reached out to a guy from years ago at a camp thanking him for being kind to me when others weren’t. I do think he had an interest in me and his mother asked my mother about carpooling.. but he listened when others didn’t, changed the page to my book when I was lost, he even complimented me.. but those gestures meant a lot at that time:

I had a cousin whom I confided in about him when we were teens.. anyway she followed him on facebook and they followed eachother on all platforms.. I was so naive to think they weren’t talking.. but it didn’t matter. I tried to follow him years later but he didn’t respond so I left it alone

Anyway I thought about him and my cousin mentioned him getting married. So a few days ago I reached out to him thanking him for his kindness, wishing him well on his union and saying that I hoped his mom and twin sister was doing well.. and he never responded..

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh girl, I'm so sorry he didn't respond to your message. That must feel really frustrating and hurtful, especially since you were just trying to reach out and thank him for being so kind to you back then.

It's totally understandable that you wanted to reconnect and express your gratitude. Those little gestures of kindness can really mean a lot, especially when you're going through a tough time. The fact that he was there for you when others weren't is really special.

But sometimes, people just don't respond, even when we think we have a connection with them. It's not necessarily a reflection on you or anything you did wrong. He could be really busy, or maybe he just wasn't expecting to hear from you after all this time.

Try not to take it personally, even though I know that's easier said than done. You put yourself out there in a vulnerable way, and that takes courage. The fact that you wanted to acknowledge his kindness and wish him well says a lot about your character.

My advice would be to just let it go for now. You reached out, you said your piece, and now the ball is in his court. If he chooses not to respond, that's on him. Focus on the other important relationships in your life and don't beat yourself up over this.

Who knows, maybe he'll come around and reach out to you someday. Or maybe this was just meant to be a meaningful moment from your past that you can carry with you. Either way, try not to dwell on it too much. You did a really thoughtful thing, and that's what matters most.

Sending you a big hug, girl. Don't be too hard on yourself. You've got this!

[Asker]

So he thinks I still like him?

[itsannalee]

He doesn’t want to respond it.
Men are simple. If they want, they will.

[Asker]

Did I do something?