A guy I used to casually date said I can shag if I want in the middle of a text convo about something else entirely?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't mind but it would probably never evolve into a real relationship, just some sort of friends with benefits thing. This guy was my roomie for the better part of last year, but he never indicated he was interested. My question is, why would someone text this in the middle of a convo about something else and why wouldn't he have told me this in person? I'm confused!

[EmmaMary]

Obviously doesn't know how to have a sensible level-headed face to face conversation.

[BarryLiverstone]

He may not know your situation of if you are interested in doing that. So he’s mentioned it casually to allow you to accept or ignore it.

[Asker]

Ok but why didn't he make any advances while I was living under the same roof?

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he’s a guy and wanted you to feel safe where you sleep at night. Imagine this: he tells you one night that he wanted to make out and you declined.. from there on you may feel awkward around him.

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way another reason he said it is maybe he felt horny at that time. So not necessarily thinking about shaging with you originally but he had sex on his mind and happened to be talking to you. If that makes sense?

[Asker]

I think it was a bit too specific. He said he remembered something I said on the subject 4 years ago, and related his question to that

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ok. You had the conversation and we don’t know all that he said. Sounds like you are willing to try so have you let him know?

[Asker]

Yes I would like to and I told him.

[Red_Arrow]

Sounds like you two will be doing the dirty real soon!

[Bklynbadboy12]

He just wants sex from you

[Asker]

Yes but why offer sex unprompted in the middle of a conversation about something else? Especially when he never tried anything while we were roomies.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause he's shooting his shot

[Asker]

Explain please

[Bklynbadboy12]

He doesn't want to miss his opportunity to get at you. He stayed quiet before and got no where now he's shooting his shot i guess he said fuck it what have u got to loss

[Asker]

Excellent reply. Thanks. That could very well be it.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your so welcome. Do you like this guy? I mean is he your type

[Asker]

I think he is

[Bklynbadboy12]

So why don't you give him a chance

[Asker]

I want to but how do I go about doing that?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just let things take a natural progression when he makes a move just go with the flow