How is it that a married man is being a jerk to me after I thanked him for being kind to me in the past but he follows half naked women?

[Anonymous]

I sent him a very friendly message thanking him for his kindness when I was a loner and congratulated him on his fiance. I also wanted to say he’s a good person

he tries to downplay knowing me even though he follows my cousins and rejected my follow in the past even though I knew him first

he follows all types of women and it’s not my business but I never disrespected him or his marriage I just sent something thoughtful

[Finchie40]

Maybe he assumes you want to be more then just friends’ with him , so he is ignoring you for that reason , in the past have you ever said anything that might of gotten back to him , like saying he is attracted , or good looking etc? Did your cousin tell him you find him attractive or good looking? If that’s the case , then that’s the problem the reason he isn’t replying back to you.

[Asker]

Probably but they ended up following eachother on all social media platforms so I assumed they talked so I didn’t think of it that way

[Finchie40]

Yea that’s more than likely the reason then

[Asker]

But he’s engaged now… I think he used to like me first tho

[Finchie40]

Either or , he is still playing it safe because he is engaged, so he is backing off if this will make you feel better , he might be kicking himself in the ass for not responding as well , especially if he is attracted to you , and he doesn’t want to get in trouble , so he is being a good boy to his fiancé

[Asker]

What are you thinking most likely… it’s weird he follows 2 of my cousins but not me.. he doesn’t even know them. Before he got engaged and had a baby he was popping up a lot in my “people you may know “

[Asker]

I want him to be good to her I’m not trying to mess up their marriage. It was a compliment on saying I know he’s a good person by nature and I was wishing him well

[Finchie40]

So he never contacted you on the internet prior?

[Asker]

Nope he didn’t

[Finchie40]

Then he is ignoring you for some reason , maybe your cousins said things to him that made him feel uncomfortable about you ,

[Asker]

Like what? Because I’m trying to figure that out…. But my other cousin doesn’t know him … he followed her based off my followings

[Finchie40]

You are best to talk to your cousins about it and see what they say

[Asker]

I don’t talk to the one who I feel might have talked to him after she knew I liked him.. she might have said something to him.. but she’s not in my life anymore anyway

[Finchie40]

Then she is probably the one that talked shit on you to him and that’s why he is probably ignoring you as well

[Asker]

What could she have said…. I had only asked her to try and hook us up since she had a facebook at the time and when it was my birthday she said he told me happy birthday and asked for my number but ig nothing happened

[Finchie40]

Then it sounds like he is ignoring you because he knows you are attracted to him and he doesn’t want anything to interfere with him and his fiancé is my guess. Some guys’ just distant themselves from girls’ that he knows has interest in him when he gets into a relationship with a girl , to be respectful to his partner. So don’t get bent out of shape over it , that’s just how some people act when they get into relationships. If You ever ran into him in public , I am pretty sure he would be nice to you. But for now , he doesn’t want you to get the wrong impression , because unfortunately some girls’ don’t care whether a guy is on a relationship or not
, if she wants him , she will go for him , no matter what. So he might assume you will do that to him

[Asker]

But he was interested in me first during camp … he was the one that was friendly.. he was the first guy that called me pretty, he paid attention to me when no one else did, changed the page on my book when I couldn’t see the board.. he was just very kind to me and he had his sister try and talk to me and his mom do car pooling because his mom all of a sudden talked to my mom and they exchanged numbers to carpool.

So maybe I was under the wrong impression but nothing happened and maybe she told him I liked him idk… so maybe I was in the wrong to reach out but I was just thinking about how kind he was and wanted to basically wish him well and say he’s a good person

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

It depends on which part of the world are you living in?

[In_Trance]

I don't see why any of this matters if it's not your husband

[spartan55]

So, how is he being a jerk to you?

[Asker]

Because he didn’t say anything

[spartan55]

That's not being a jerk. What did you expect him to say?

[Asker]

Just have human decency