Stuck on my ex best friend for over a year, even though I don’t want her romantically. What the hell is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

Okay so long story short, me and this girl were best friends. Last year we stopped talking completely and since then… it’s been a mess. I don’t love her, I never wanted to date her or anything like that. But I keep thinking about her. A lot. Like… sexually too, even though I never saw her that way when we were close.

I feel like I’m stuck in a loop. I’ve tried to move on, delete everything, block her out — but it always comes back. It pisses me off because she was like family to me, and now I just feel like I messed it all up in my head.

Has anyone been through this? Is this some weird emotional trauma thing or what? I just want to be free from it, man.

[SueShe]

You are a guy, you are in the worst possible age and you are ruled by your testosterone. You don't master it you are a slave of it and that is why you feel like fornicating this person.

If you were not thinking of that topic 24/7, you would not have that kind of thoughts and you could resume living a normal life. Alas, men tend to think of that way too often but fear not. When you reach the mid forties, those thoughts of getting into the pants of every woman you come across will slowly disappear and by the time you reach 75, it is almost all gone.

Just don't think of sex all the time and keep away from porn. That should help.

[Nikki1989]

Immaturity is what is wrong with you. You will snap out of it eventually.

[Anonymous]

I get stuck thinking about a guy friend I had who just up and left one day , I guess ya don’t move on quickly from things like that. It’s been about a month for me.

[strateguy632]

Nothing wrong you just have memories.

[Anonymous]

You are in love.