Why would a guy be threatened by my message thanking him in the past now that he’s married but follows half naked women?

[Anonymous]

He follows lusty women and no it’s not my business but he does follow my cousin and she is fast…ect but my message was just showing appreciation to past kindness nothing inappropriate

[Anonymous]

Probably because unlike the women he follows chances are they’re not directly messaging him. But w you, you are so his wife may question it because it hits closer to home as far as who is this chick you’re talking to. In her eyes more of a possibility of him cheating since she’s directly interacting w him.

[Asker]

I understand but all I said was thank you and I congratulated him and her and said hope his mom and twin sister are fine

[Opinion Owner]

Sure could be innocent talk but you don’t know what his wife is like. Maybe she’s extremely jealous. Maybe she doesn’t even want him talking to other women.

[Asker]

Then that’s her problem. Being threatened over a kind message is immature and if I’m a threat to their marriage then I’m not the problem

[Asker]

Plus he’s this different person who was kind …. Treating me like an nobody just to appease his wife is hurtful and I don’t feel like I deserved it.

[Opinion Owner]

Regardless, it makes it his problem too if she’s like that. So I’d just avoid talking to him.

[Asker]

You see. I could care less. One thing he’s not going to do is disrespect me especially if it was unwarranted. Downplaying knowing me was mad disrespectful

[Opinion Owner]

You say you could care less but you’re making a big deal of it. Obviously he doesn’t think you’re that important.

[Asker]

Right that’s the hurtful part because I was just being kind I don’t expect to be important to him because I’m not his wife or family just somebody who remembered his past kindness

Who tf is he? I’m making a big deal out of it because I know I didn’t deserve that.

[Opinion Owner]

I get how you feel but you can’t do much about it other than to move on. If he comes back later then I’d remember this encounter and say I’m done w you. Nothing more. You don’t need to try to get back at him or whatever you’re trying to do. What will get to him more is just moving on. You’re trying to tell him he needs to respect you and here’s why. But a person should t have to tell someone to respect them. If you do you’ve already lost. You walk. You respect yourself to not put up w that bs.

[Asker]

I don’t think you quite understand why this is hurting me and why I was thanking him…. He was the only one who showed kindness when no one else was kind and I was depressed as a teen. I struggle with bipolar depression and I struggle with wanting to live so this hurt me… he only responded with “camp?” after I called him a jackass

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry to hear that but trying to still get back at him or make him feel hurt or whatever you’re trying to achieve is not going to make things better. You need professional help. Maybe you’ve already been getting help. Things change. I’m not sure why it changed. Maybe it’s because of her.

[Asker]

I know we were teens but It’s almost like he saw me when nobody else did because I was sort of a loner. He wasn’t and girls liked him etc. But he was genuinely kind … he listened when no one else did, he changed the page of my book when it was on the wrong page , he complimented me, he had his sister to talk to me when no one else did. And our mothers exchanged numbers for carpooling. I never forgot it after all these years

he's married now with a family and I reached out to thank him and I was left on seen. I wonder why he changed especially when I didn’t think it was anything more than nice niceness

[Opinion Owner]

It’s hard to say. People change. I get how you feel. Hard to find people who see others different than the world does. But for whatever reason he’s changed. Again maybe it’s his wife. But regardless you have to just respect his choices and move on.
Is he someone you like? As in a relationship?

[Asker]

No he was the one who was kind to me in the past and I thought he was the one interested but nothing came to be so I just assumed he was kind.. he follows 2 of my cousins… one cousin he doesn’t know he just follows

I completely understand people change but I don’t understand why I deserved that treatment

[Opinion Owner]

Let me ask you a real question. Do you think that maybe over time he just got tired of the way you are. For instance. I knew a girl, really pretty but everything was just negative w all her emotions. I liked her but she just had too many things going on I couldn’t deal w it. I wasn’t trying to be mean but it’s like everything was always negative w her. Her thoughts. How she perceived people as how they would see her. She was constantly getting in contact w me. Not to just talk but because she had something going on. It just drained me after a while.

[Asker]

We never dated or talked so it’s a tad different. We just went to camp together he was kind I remembered it…. I tried to thank him

[Opinion Owner]

I see. W out really knowing his side it’s hard to say. Again it could be his wife. A lot of women get extremely jealous. Some men just put up w it.
After you two went to camp together did you keep in contact w one another? Talk?

[Asker]

No I didn’t have a Facebook at the time so I asked my cousin to look him up… I don’t know what happened but I think she got attracted to him and they ended up following eachother every since then… she said he asked for my number and said happy birthday but he never reached out to me… but they followed eachother since. And he followed another one of my cousins and she said she didn’t know him

But I really wanted to thank him because I plan on getting euthanized for my mental health…

But maybe I was in the wrong looking back at it. I had no business reacting out

[Asker]

I think before he got his girlfriend now wife pregnant I actually hadn’t thought about him but he popped up in my people you may know out of no where

[Opinion Owner]

Getting euthanized for your mental health?
It’s possible that yes he ended up liking your cousin. Again it’s hard to say I don’t know him.

[Opinion Owner]

I see. I think if he had thought about you more as someone special, some dear to him he would have reached out after all this time. But he didn’t.

[Asker]

Yes I can’t and don’t want to deal with my bipolar depression anymore. I don’t speak to that cousin anymore as of now because I realized she wasn’t a great cousin to me and I don’t know what she told him…

[Asker]

But yep I realized I never mattered to him.

[Opinion Owner]

Tell me about yourself.

[Asker]

Why do you want to know

[236color]

Would he be threatened, no probably not. His wife might be. It's dumb, she shouldn't be, but she might. Also, exactly what does the fact that he follows "half naked women" have to do with your interaction with him?

[spartan55]

Why do you keep reposting this? Move on already. And he wasn't 'threatened' 😂 he doesn't care.

[Asker]

Oh okay

[Asker]

Whatever Holly @hollyk21

[BDRick]

Guys are strange

[Asker]

Yeah I’m learning that

[BDRick]

lol I say that as a guy because both genders have their quirks but guys are like… c’mon

[Asker]

Why did he do that to my message

[BDRick]

Personal fault process on his behalf

[Asker]

What do you mean?