My crush's friends are trying to get me to join them to pull him in. What's my relationship with him?

[Anonymous]

We hang out a lot playing video games. However, lately his friends are trying to reach me to get him to hang with them.

Although, they have been playing more casually and drop randomly sometimes. It's quite annoying on the run. My crush has said I'm most pleasant to hang with and has dropped playing games with his other friends for me. We're both stubborn on improving. But I have taken a more casual approach and sometimes he is a bit more on the serious side. Sometimes I think he likes my company more as a game partner than one would say a potential girlfriend. And I don't mind because he always make people laugh and I enjoy his company a lot.

This is actually the second group of friends he has that tried to contact me or look me up to find out my crush's business. I get that I hang out with him a lot. But I feel like I'm in a weird position.

[SteveSmith1985]

So , if a guy's friends are clearly making some effort to bring you and a guy together... that guy definitely likes you. Guys will rarely solicit their guy friends to help find ways to spend more time with the girl they like. And guy friends are never going to ever do that... without being asked by their friend (the guy).

You are not in a weird position. You are ignoring very very (extremely) clear indicators that your crush likes you back. This is not a "maybe." I don't know you. I only know what you wrote here. It's super clear that he likes you.

If he didn't like you... don't you think he would be really upset with his friends; for trying to make you THINK he liked you? (nobody is going to be ok with their friends screwing up something they want to be a "gaming friendship.").

You're in a very clear position. Not a weird one.

If you like this guy... he likes you too. If you want something to happen... go for it. You can make moves that way without any emotional risk (start talking to him outside of gaming. Reach out more often to show you want to hang out with him etc.).

He likes you back.

[Asker]

It's I spend too much time with him alone and sometimes with him and his friends. Suddenly, me and him are playing a new game together. Then his friends tried to reach out to me to play another game they want him to play too. They couldn't get him to play with them so they are asking me to join them. I barely even talk to them outside hanging with them and him together. They know he is a good gamer and I am just average. So I thought it was weird they are trying to talk to me to hang out with them. Does that still mean something? Thank you for the response.

[SteveSmith1985]

Hmm... so actually this is completely different than I originally thought. If I understand you right... these friends are only contacting you, because they are hoping to get the guy you like to play with them. He is spending time alone with you, playing some different game. His friends seem to want him... but realize that the easiest way to get him... is to convince YOU to come play with them too. Is that right?

If so, then what it means is: His friends seem to understand that this guy is going to want to spend time with you. Specifically. They understand that what the guy decides to do... will depend on what YOU want to do. In other words, if they convince you to come play the game they want this guy to play... they know that is the best way to get him. He is less likely to come if you aren't coming too. He is very likely to come... if you're already going. So yes I'd say it still means something. I is a tacit acknowledgement that this guy wants to spend time with you. And that he will want to be wherever you are. So it is definitely a positive sign.

[Aldan1609]

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