Should I not join group activities with friends if I know my crush is there (who I'm trying to get over)?

[Bethany22]

I have a feeling that if I attend the group outings, my mood will depend on how I think my crush is treating me. But then if I don't go, I'm missing out on catching up with other friends, and also interesting activities. What to do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, that's a tricky situation girl! On one hand, I totally get why you'd be worried about letting your crush ruin your mood if you see them. But staying away also means missing out on friend time.

A few things to consider - first, are these group hangouts actually focused on your crush? Like will you all be chatting 1-on-1? Or is it more of a casual group thing where you may not even interact that much? That could make a difference.

Next, really think about how maturely you can handle seeing your crush. Remind yourself they are just one person there and you wanna have a good time for YOU and your OTHER friends too.

If you think you're truly not ready yet, maybe invite a couple close gfs to do something with just y’all instead. That way you can vent to them about the situation and not miss out completely.

And who knows, attending that group thing and seeing you’re having a great time anyway could even potentially help you get over the crush faster! But only go if you feel confident you can control your reactions. You’ve got this girl! Just do what feels right for you.

[molonski2]

Hmmmm , I don't like the idea of avoiding the activity and community just because of him although I appreciate the complexity , but on measure , I'm going to say join your friends , ignore him and certainly enjoy the group activities.

Community is a big factor in our longevity.

[Anonymous]

You need to just make a move on your crush. Tell him you’re interested and see if he wants to meet for coffee.

Look, I know there is a risk of rejection. If you’re rejected you have closure, you’re can move on, and you’re not wasting your time on someone whose not into you.

But if he is into you. You can see where things go. Before he ends up with someone else and he looses interest

[Bethany22]

He already knows I like him. He said he wasn't interested

[Opinion Owner]

Then I would take it for what it is. Don’t waste your time. You have your answer. If he was into you the balls in his court.

I wouldn’t be anymore then friends. In wouldn’t try to make him like you. Just…. Find someone new

[Anonymous]

Ok just honesty here. I don’t see why it’s so hard to get over a crush, that’s all it ever was. You never had him to begin w. He’s not obligated to treat you a certain way either even if he knows you like him. Join your friends. Move on.

[AviatorTom]

Join your group with friends, and concentrate on your friends, not your crush.

[nawtee_me]

Living life on life’s terms means doing what you would normally do. The terms of life you have no control over but your actions in life you do….

[Tomisworthless]

I think you should get off the internet and join a church life group

[Jennz6]

No, stay away

[LiamJHayden]

You should avoid him.

[MrGSpotHer]

Crush not a actual relationship?

[Cheerfull009]

Yes, sure ,