but I already set 2nd date with her next weekend.
It's bad news either way.
Most girls, even the super shy ones (especially the super shy ones) would like to spend time with you 1 on 1. If you were an amazing guy in her eyes, a rare gem, then she'd be protective and defensive over you.
Women are VERY competitive. It's far more likely she'd keep you far away from her friends but talk about you to them until she's formed a strong commitment from you.
Let's say she does like you, then these are worse signs. It is a clear indication of her decision making abilities or lack thereof. If she needs her friends to validate you first and assess you on her behalf, then she's a poor judge of character and you may find trouble with a girl like this later down the line concerning other men.
In this situation The emphasis Or the ranked importance in her life is:
1) What other people think of her and how she's perceived by others.
2) How she's perceived by you.
That's one of the worst positions to start a relationship from as a man. It would be like building your home on top of quick sand.
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I would keep your guard up.
One good way to test her is to not contact her first after this “group” date. Sure do the group date if you can handle it. But don’t contact her first afterwards. Again wait for her to contact you.
If she doesn’t contact you then your friendzoned and she’s stringing you along (run). But if she does contact ask her for a one on one date. If she mentions bringing any of her friends along then again you are for sure friendzoned.
Your choice on what to do with that shitty situation. If it was me I would walk after that.
Not necessarily. Did you consider that maybe being with her friends makes her feel more comfortable than being out alone with you right now? Basically they're her "wingwomen" group.
Or her friends might be feeling you out. She might want their input on you. Believe it or not, some people put a lot of emphasis on what their friends and family think of potential partners.
Or you could just ask to hang out with her... alone? You know, like on a REAL date.
You said "crush" implying she probably doesn't know how you feel about her. So yeah, keep it up, you might fall into the friendzone.
One thing she might be more relaxed if its not a one on one situation so she wants her friends around or she uses them to get their opinion on you too
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Sweetie, most women know if you're headed for Poundtown or Friendsville within 30 minutes of meeting a guy. While it is definitely possible to change paths, it's difficult. If you're on the way to Poundtown and stray, that's it, you don't even get to go to Friendsville, you're just dead to her. If you ever actually make it to Friendsville (even kicking and screaming) go ahead and get your mail forwarded because if you DO some how start towards Poundtown, it will be YEARS.
Yes. Likely.
If you aren't tag as a sex interest that spikes our heart and makes our knees week, we start to think of you as a brother. Sex will ruin the valued relation at best and at worse feel like a brother.
Have you told her how you feel?
she could probably be doing this because she likes you but doesn’t know how to ask you out so she asks you to join the group thing to encourage you to ask her outTwo possibilities here:
1. She's just being nice
2. She's interested too but shyAt least your crush actually includes you. My high school crush who I used to be friends with in elementary school before I developed the crush on her when we started middle school wouldn’t give me the time of day. 🤷🏻♂️
It could but if they are no love connection on the other side lucky to be friends better than nothing
Depends on how you play it. Act around her. Etc.
If you're also dating privately, I would assume it's just because she wants to spend time with you and her friends. Are you in the same friend group?
It depends. You say you have a second date. Was the first date just the 2 of you, or were you in a group? Is the second date just the 2 of you or are you in a group?
Break things off with her immediately or start blowing her off and be super rude to here friends
we date women to get to know them not their friends
Not necessarily. It might her a few dates to feel more comfortable around you. But if happens after several dates, then you should ask her.
Women fall in love slower than we do, so try not to rush it but feel free to tell her how you feel about her.
Lead to friend zoned? You are already friend zoned.
If you meet up it is you 2 only if not she not worth it
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Impossible to know at this stage
You're being used, most likely.
I always wondered about that as well.
You're already in the friendzone
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