Am I friend zoned?

[Anonymous]

I have gone on four dates with this guy. The first three dates have been coffee dates. He is very random with his texting. He will send a couple texts and thats it. I posted a few pictures of hiking and one day he messaged me saying he wants to get back into hiking. Then he invited me over for dinner. He made dinner and then asked to watch a movie. I stayed about 6 hours but he always stayed at the opposite side of the couch. His feet would sometimes be over and tucked into my legs but thats it. I curled my hair and did my makeup. Put a lot of effort in. I even wore a short dress that basically showed everything when I was under the blanket which he would have felt with his feet. I left super late. He messaged me the next day and asked when I went to sleep. I sent him a message back. He then replied and said I have a spare bedroom but its full of stuff. I don't want the spare bedroom. I don't know if he is just nervous and has bad social skills or he just sees me as a friend. What should I do?

[OlderAndWiser]

THREE coffee dates? That is a huge red flag. If he didn't like you, he wouldn't ask for subsequent dates, so my take is that he is very inexperienced, lacks confidence, and is just awkward. Do you have the time and patience to be his guide to gaining experience?

[DarkWinterNights]

Guys rarely friendzone girls. You’re either categorized as “sex only” or ghosted. This guy just sounds very cautious or nervous. Could be he had some bad experiences in the past, or he has very little experience in general and is overthinking everything.

[bededazzle]

why don’t you try to initiate a date that’sa but more interactive and see how it goes?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Spend more time with him, you'll eventually get the hint of his intentions.. im sure.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Sounds like he was just totally nervous but he probably likes you.

[spartan55]

Make a move on him.