How do you stop friends from having crushes on you whilst still being there friend?

[Anonymous]

I have a few friends (who dont know each other) including one of my closer friends and I would consider them a best friend. Over the last few weeks, they have been telling me or confessing that they like me. They have said they understand I do not want a relationship and I cannot commit right now and that I do not think I like them the same way back. Since they have said these things (or one even kissed me), they have been a lot more distant and I know I should give them space but I really miss having them as my friends, especially the one who is one of my best friends. I love spending time with them, having deep conversations, having their attention and giving them mine.

So, how do I allow them to move on from liking me or not raise the hopes too high, whilst still being their friend? Or is it just mot possible?

[Ms_Facesitter]

I'm sorry but you can't. It's their choice. You're only being yourself, never stop being yourself. That's how you attract likeminded people. Unfortunately you'll also have the chance of people getting a crush on you. It's only normal that it happens. You can't stop them, it's a choice they make.

You can respectfully reject their advances and put them in that so called 'friend zone' and some people will listen and respect your wishes and still be your friend. Others will still try to make you change your mind, forcing you to eventually push them away cause they keep making it awkward. Others will respect your wishes but they still crush on you and decide it's best to part ways.

All you can do is reject them as nicely as you can. But make sure there are no misunderstandings.

[Asker]

Okay thank you, it is just a shame i have made so many friends this summer yet lost most of them because they keep saying that they like me ugh but thanks

[Anonymous]

You don't cause Thier friendship is over they see you as a date not a friend they hurt!

Guys can't see a girl as a friend and a date! They will always want into your pants!

Lost several good friends this way! My besty asked them in secret and they all said they hope to one day date!

You can't be friends and wanting!

[Asker]

But one of them, I have been friends with for a very long time and was friends with him before he transitioned to a guy and when he was dating. I dont know, thank you so much for the response though

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome?
How did they change?
Still it's so sad! I had 2 friends who I know since I was a baby! Once they admitted that they liked me our friendship was over!

They never looked at me the same looking longlonly at my chest and but!

Like why I have not changed they did and I could never trust them ever again! They showed it too

[Asker]

My friend slowly realised over time that he feels that he should be boy and not a girl as he biologically was, he has changed his legal documents and his parents and family are supportive. A few months after that he started crushing on me and only told me the other week, 6 months later. It seems we can still be friends thankfully but I do not want to keep his hopes up.

And I get that, I haven't noticed my other friends looking at only my chest or butt, but I dont know they seem to keep flirtingg or they just stop talking to me and miss having regular conversations with them.

[Opinion Owner]

You will but I time you will make new friends it's Thier choice they don't want to be lead on!

Even though you just want to be friends

[Asker]

Okay, thanks

[Pacquet]

You’re doing it right now by giving them their space. Very mature of you by the way. I’m sure they’ll come around but if they don’t then it wasn’t meant to be and you know why

[Asker]

okay thanks, this is the only comment that has actually made me feel like a decent person, i will continue to do this and just see what happens thank you so much

[altaboy]

You know what? Marriage is a very long time. I'd much rather be married to a good friend. It's something to think about.

[Asker]

i guess but like i am 16... and i really want to get into one of the best unis in the world because i know i can and i just need to focus on studying, i dont want to get attached yet

[NotTacocaT6969]

Reject gently but clearly.


The ones who only want sex or whatever will stop being your friend, which will hurt a little but it’s for the best.

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[DextroShade]

I am going to assume these are men you are talking about. Men aren't your friends, we want to smash. Just accept it and l8ve your life accordingly.

[NotTacocaT6969]

I like how you’re trying to speak for all men from the perspective of a pervert.

Just because you’re a sex addict incapable of human emotion doesn’t mean all men are. 🤣

[DextroShade]

@NotTacocaT6969 you obviously don't understand men at all, hence the shaming language. The simps you keep in the friend-zone want to fuck you whether you like it or not.

[Asker]

thanks for letting me know ill keep it in my mind but to be honest that kind of sucks

[236color]

Don't be female

[Asker]

okay thanks yeah i dont think thats really an option for me unfortunately

[Nikki1989]

You don't. Not your problem.

[Asker]

i guess

[In_Trance]

You can't

[Asker]

thanks for letting me know