Should I dm an old high school crush?

[LuminousMind]

I want to ask for some advice about contacting an old high school crush on Facebook. There was some history, but I have no idea if it’s worth it or if he’d even remember me. Though I wanted to see if he remembered any of this because it ended up making me nervous to date in high school.

So in my sophomore year, I thought this guy was cute and I made it obvious. My friends and his friends would hang out In the cafeteria not too far away from each other. When I looked over at him, his friend noticed. I heard him ask the guy “do you like her?” and he answered “maybe” while looking over at me. His friend would push him over at me and my crush would tell him to stop.

This happened for a while. Before then I was perfectly fine with talking to him but then after his friends found out, claiming I “digged him” things got awkward. I got so insecure whenever his friends would call me his girlfriend. Because I was going through major insecurities at that time because I was in a very dark place, I automatically assumed that meant he didn’t like me then and his friends were saying that because someone as “ugly” liked him.

I remembered there was this guy who ended up having a crush on me. Ironically he sat right next to my crush and ended up telling him he thought I had “pretty eyes and hair.” He ended up looking at me in a different way. His friends still teased him and I did manage to talk to him a few times and get to know him better, he was a pretty nice person and we had some things in common. I learned he even considered asking me out but (when his friend asked he said maybe). I ended up talking to him a few more times again and found out he handed up asking out someone else. I wasn’t too crushed after, but the fact that his friends teased him stunned my confidence up to senior year because I didn’t want to face that embarrassment again, though not till college.

Do you think I should send a dm? Think a guy would remember this?

[koran_harinas]

I see , tbh I am not a fan of "strings attached with past" but here you have few things to be very honest about!

1. You still see him as something. Then be honest with yourself connecting with him!
Either it's friendship or any sort of bond

2. You have to make yourself ready for the worst! And you should not be feel upset! ( If that worse gonna affect you big time just don't! ... remember at any decision of life if can't deal with its worst possible outcome don't do it ! )

Ok so contact him or not? Ofcourse why not? School mates right ? Just go for it !
But from there collect few info like - is he dating or whatever! According to it move ahead!

But ofcourse just contact nothing bad in it !

Godspeed to you ! Best wishes👍

[jasco]

Theirs always a chance, however the longer the wait the less feeling he will have. I at least ask him out and see where it goes. If he says no than at least you have closure and if he says yes a win for you

[Wise4myage]

Go for it, you have nothing to lose. And if he rejects you, than at least you know made an effort.

[LuminousMind]

Thank you for answering!

[Adogdog]

I am sure he would remember, but I would try and find out if he is single now before trying to message him. If you are worried about embarrassment then forget it and get another guy.

[qwert1234]

I did not read except for title..
If he/she is single - do it or forever hold your peace.

[garykingg]

In general, guys don't like desperate women. It feels weird talking to women who give off desperate vibes.

[ChiPaPa]

Go for it. Introduce yourself as someone that went to the same high school he did and see if he remembers. Good luck

[Anonymous]

Just check him out but don't dig him too much. Say hi first.

[LuminousMind]

Of course, mind if I ask what I should say other than just say hi, because for the record we haven't spoken in like 6 years but it’s been 3 years since high school and I’m reaching my senior year of college. Also do you think a guy would remember something like this and why do you think his friends teased him back then?

[Opinion Owner]

Not sure. If he liked u then then he will remember. His friends teased u cos he told his friends that he liked u

[LuminousMind]

That makes sense, though he said maybe and I do have no idea if he’ll remember me tho I think I’ll go for it.

[disgustingweebtrash]

didn't read the wall of text but no

[Julious0202]

If both are single and you like him, just go!

[pink_and_inlove]

Yessssss

[AmeerX]

Do reach him out

[In_Trance]

No, don't do it