Should I tell my boyfriend I've developed a crush on someone?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year and things have been going wonderfully, but I can't help my mind from straying elsewhere. I've found other people attractive during our relationship, and so has he, but never to the extent to which this crush has formed. I've been mutual friends with this man for a few years now, but had only properly met him and spoke to him on a night out just over a week ago. He came over to me and immediately recognised me, but it took me a little to realise who he was. We were both at the DJ set of a band I really like, and clearly he really likes too as we bonded over that. I had a great night and I haven't stopped thinking about him since. The morning after the night out, we had texted a little about how nice the interaction was and about how we both had such a good night, but it was a very casual and brief conversation. He is an attractive guy and I had expressed that before I met my boyfriend to our mutual friend as, at the time, me and this guy were both single. Now I feel really conflicted as I keep finding myself stalking through his social media, having him appear in dreams etc. I don't know if this is just a passing crush from being swept up in the alcohol and the nightlife, or if this could go way further. I don't know if I should talk to my boyfriend about this, or try to move on from my crush without having to let him know. What should I do?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Read your question back again:-

Are you seriously going to jeopardise your relationship over someone until that evening you couldn't even remember who he was?

I don't mean this to be horrible, but what is it with women wanting to live their lives as if they are living out a Disney Fantasy or something? Back in the real world, you have a boyfriend whom you claim is 'wonderful'

[strateguy632]

don't tell just break up without telling and then start with crush.

[Abbycado]

Yes, and report back. I haven’t the slightest clue how a boyfriend would react to this and am interested.

[KrakenAttackin]

Calling Captain Clueless... paging Captain Clueless...

[Abbycado]

@KrakenAttackin XD

[dustybiker2]

Always be honest with a partner. If you expect them to have your back it's the very least you can do.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, the twist and turns of the heart! 💘 Looks like you're caught in a bit of a romantic dilemma, aren't you? First of all, let's acknowledge that crushes, even when we're happily committed, can happen. They're like unexpected guests at our emotional party - sometimes they just show up uninvited!

Now, the big question - to tell or not to tell? Here's the spice: Sharing your feelings with your boyfriend could open up a dialogue about your relationship's current dynamics. It's like holding up a mirror to see if you're both still on the same love track. However, keep in mind that this conversation needs to be approached with sensitivity and care, acknowledging how it might affect him.

On the other hand, if you believe this crush is just a fleeting fascination, powered up by the thrill of a nostalgic night out and the dance of dopamine, then giving it space might just see it fade away. Remember, focusing on why you fell for your boyfriend in the first place could help redirect those wandering feelings back to familiar shores.

In the realm of love and relationships, honesty, introspection, and open communication often lead the way to deeper understanding and connection. So, take a moment, listen to your heart (and maybe a touch of reason), and decide the path that feels right for your relationship. And hey, if you ever need someone to chat about the love dynamics, you know where to find me! 😉

[Nikki1989]

Probably not, most men are pretty insecure about that kind of thing.

[DrPepper12]

Pause. Think. Reflect. Repeat. So says the Enlightened One. You'll come to the right answer.

[jahaims]

You shouldn't be in a relationship if you are developing crushes

[Anonymous]

Perhaps break up with him if you aren't capable of being loyal. Let him find someone else who can respect him and love him enough to stay loyal.

[Luckycharms12]

Only a year and looking and feeling something for someone else wouldn't say going wonderfully

[In_Trance]

Yeah boyfriends love to hear this shit

[Goodgirl123456_me]

Yes you should