Can I pursue my crush if he is already somewhat affiliated to my friend?

[Anonymous]

I have a crush on my brother's friend, let's call him A. My brother and I have a mutual friend, let's call her B.

B broke up with her partner recently and my brother had the idea to introduce A to B. So the narrative that was set at that point in time, is that there is now a bridge drawn between them.

The four of us became mutual friends recently after meeting at a common setting and both B and I got to meet A face to face and know him better through this setting. (I never got to know A better or spend time with him previously because we only knew of each other's existence but never had the opportunity to get to know each other.)

I still have a crush on A but no one knows anything because I never spoke up. I also treasure my friendship with B. But am I not allowed to speak out now or pursue my crush because the ship has sailed? Is there some kind of unspoken 'Friend Code' thing where I have to stop now and just let my crush die out internally and move on? Is it maybe rude to B if I do pursue my crush, even after knowing that she was introduced to him first? I don't know what to do... any advice?

[Anonymous]

Depends on what’s happening with A and B. If they’ve only been introduced and nothing has taken off, along with her not having feelings for him then you should be in the clear. However if they’ve been talking then yes, that ship has sailed. If she’s shown interest in him but they haven’t spoken then you have the chance to tell her privately that you are interested in him. Be sure that you are ready to make a move though, because it would be messed up to tell her not to pursue him just because you have a crush, but you know you aren’t brave enough to act on.

[princessconsuella]

I think you must know first how B feels about him, weather she likes him or not. And even if after A & B have been introduced, did something happen, did they start talking, if yes than it's hard , if no than it's okay for you to make a move.

[PatriceONeal]

Women are such good friend with eachother. JK

Men have a bro code. Women seem to have nothing of the sort besides a shared jealous hatred towards men.

[Avicenna]

He’s fair game to you as far as I can see.

[Anonymous]

Yes, everybody is fair game.

[In_Trance]

Seems pointless to me but you do you