I lost a pair of panties, and I think my bfs roommate (may) have taken them. What should I do?

[notadumblonde]

[SteveSmith1985]

The whole problem is... it's not really right to accuse the guy, if you don't know he's guilty. That's the road to a back and forth... that's really not fair if the guy's totally innocent. And since he might be, then I don't think there is much you can do about what he (may) have already done. You can try and take measures to make sure that if he tries again, then you WILL know for sure. Whether that's putting up a camera pointed at your dresser, or some other means... I think you should have an eye towards making sure this can't/doesn't happen again. I don't think there's anything you can do about your current suspicions though. Sorry.

[Cormac995]

Tell your boyfriend to look for them when he knows the guy won't be able to catch him. Then if he finds them and you're right and his roommate stole them. Then have your boyfriend beat his ass (Bat is optional but encouraged) and kick him out. If not then have him move out and move in with you because if he's willing to go on a "quest" and slay an "evil king" you found a keeper.

[notadumblonde]

I talked to my boyfriend. He refuses to believe his friend could do anything like this. He suggested I looked everywhere else before accusing him.

[Cormac995]

Hmmmm I see I'm not sure what to say at that point except convince him that if his friend is innocent what would he have to hide and what would be the harm? If his friend isn't guilty it shouldn't be a big deal if he puts up a fuss then it starts looking weird.

[Texasgal95]

Just be open and honest and be like hey does anybody know where whatever the underwear looks like describe them wet I can’t find them and not to be weird or anything. Maybe the roommate likes you and wanted to have something of yours to turn him on or something

[notadumblonde]

His roommate saw me topless coming out of the bathroom the day before my panties went missing

[Texasgal95]

Then, yeah, he was turned on and he wanted something that he could probably jack off to. That’s your.

[Paige90]

He's definitely masturbating with them!

[Hellfireandcandy]

Sucks but you may have to let them go, but I'd thr boyfriend that if expensive panties keep going missing then you'll have to switch to cheap ugly ones

[FunkyMonkee]

Either tell boyfriend about it and tell him you want them back or, next time you go over, hunt for them and take them back. Or, tell the roomie you've got a bad case of crabs or herpes.

[David318578]

Move on, either he has them or he doesn't, do you really want them back if he has them?

[notadumblonde]

If he has them, I definitely dont want them back

It's not about wanting them back. It's about knowing if I can trust him.

[PaleDale]

He's obviously using them. I'd mention it to your boyfriend, see what he says, and both of you confront that guy

[notadumblonde]

He and my boyfriend are best friends. I dont want accuse him without proof

[PaleDale]

Can you check out his room, like is there any time when he's away?

[notadumblonde]

Yes, there is, but Im not going through his room.

[PaleDale]

That's the proof, right?

[notadumblonde]

Accusing him is one thing but going through his stuff is another entirely

[PaleDale]

Yeah, true.

[PaleDale]

So why u think your boyfriend's roommate took them

[notadumblonde]

He saw me topless yesterday coming out of the bathroom

[PaleDale]

So he took your panties and he's sniffing them and using them to jerk off

[notadumblonde]

That's what I think

[PaleDale]

Just let him keep going, forget about him, what can you do, he's on fire

[PaleDale]

He's crazy about your body obviously

[PaleDale]

He fantasies about fucking you when he's using your panties

[notadumblonde]

I dont need to be thinking about that

[PaleDale]

He's using your panties as a jerk rag but okay, I get it, just forget, I've done it myself

[PaleDale]

He's thinking about you topless and he's exploding deep into your panties, is my guess. Disgusting, so forget about it, if there's nothing you can do

[notadumblonde]

You've done it yourself?

[Paige90]

@notadumblonde did you care that he saw you?

[PaleDale]

Yes, a long time ago.

[ilistengood]

Not to stir the pot but what makes you suspect one and not the other, om just curious

[Caliguy88]

I’d just let it go. That’s a pretty serious route to go if you’re not 100% sure.

[robocop666]

can you prove this? hire a private investigator

[Paige90]

Just write them off and let him have them

[notadumblonde]

There were expensive

[Paige90]

If he got them it says a lot about him

[notadumblonde]

Im curious what you mean?

[Paige90]

@notadumblonde that he would steal his best friend's girlfriend's panties. If he did do it I would stay away from him. Does your boyfriend know he did it?

[notadumblonde]

No he doesn't

[spartan55]

And why do you think that Detective?

[notadumblonde]

Yes, he saw me topless while coming out of the bathroom. Today one of my panties goes missing.

[spartan55]

Okay... how did he see you topless? Where the hell was your boyfriend?

[notadumblonde]

I thought I was home alone. My boyfriend was at work.

[spartan55]

I have so many questions here... is it possible you just lost the panties?

[notadumblonde]

Honestly yes it's possible

[spartan55]

Why would be at your boyfriend's place when he wasn't there, especially when he has a roommate? That's just a recipe for disaster. When and how would the roommate steal your panties? Were they clean? Dirty? In your overnight bag? On the nightstand? Where did you see them last? What was the roommate's reaction when he saw you topless? What was yours? This is all very odd?

[notadumblonde]

Me and my boyfriend work different jobs, different hours. He leaves for work before I do. The panties were dirty and in my gym bag. He was speechless when he saw me topless.

[spartan55]

So when would he have taken them? Do you live there too?

[notadumblonde]

He could have taken them while I was in the shower. Yes, I live with my boyfriend.

[spartan55]

But you said they were missing after he saw you topless?

[spartan55]

So, after the shower...

[notadumblonde]

I went into the shower and left my gym bag in my bfs room. I came out of the bathroom, and he saw me topless. I went into my bfs bedroom and got dressed. I went to grab something from gym bag and realized my panties were missing.

[spartan55]

So if he took them it would have been before he saw your boobs?

[spartan55]

If they were in your gym back I don't know how you would have lost them. Are you very sure that's where you left them?

[notadumblonde]

Yes, they were in my gym bag.

[spartan55]

Hmmm... does he seem like the kind of guy that would do that? I see your boyfriend is taking up for him... what a mess.

[notadumblonde]

Taking up for him?

[spartan55]

Yeah you said he refuses to believe his friend would do that etc...

[spartan55]

If it were me (your boyfriend), I would be going hard at the roommate about it. The panties didn't just walk away. Your boyfriend's reaction is very odd tbh.

[spartan55]

Have you stripped the bed and all that?

[notadumblonde]

No I haven't

[spartan55]

Might want to check that in your search. I know you are in a weird spot because you don't want to accuse him without knowing he definitely stole them. But if he did? You would be very justified in going nuclear.

[notadumblonde]

boyfriend wants to have sex before bed. Text me tomorrow.

[spartan55]

Lol...😂 Happy hunting...

[ilistengood]

Objection assumes facts not in evidence, calls for speculation

[spartan55]

Okay counselor

[glennos89]

Search his room when he is away

[Alex-Snow]

He probably is using them to jerk off on to

[Jeff51]

Go ask.

[notadumblonde]

I dont want to accuse him without proof

[Jeff51]

I get it. If you're only asking that's not accusing.

[notadumblonde]

Asking is a stones throw away from accusing

[Jeff51]

Maybe. Have you looked everywhere

[notadumblonde]

I've looked almost everywhere