Guys, An old friend is possibly flirting, but I don't know... guys, some feedback please?

[Anonymous]

A guy I've known for years now suddenly chose to take a class with me and to transition from social media DM to regular texting today. When he spotted me he couldn't stop smiling and talking to everyone about how "WE" are leaving together, walking to a spot together, shopping together, taking this new class now... I thought he was just being goofy, but he's been texting me all day.

He's a nice guy, and we'd actually be super compatible, but tbh I always thought he had a girlfriend, so I'm not sure what's going on rn.

Guys, some feedback here?

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11 mo

@spartan55 what’re you talking about? YES if he’s suddenly flirting after years like that HE should mention there’s been some kind of change on his side. There’s NO reason or motivation for me to rock the boat. Nowadays guys are careless and women get nasty. Are you living under a rock or something?

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11 mo

The bots are clearly on crack to give @Spartan55 "Superb Opinion. @girlsaskguys why allow toxic trolls like this loose?

[exitseven]

Maybe he all of a sudden sees you in a different way. Sometimes people have a different idea of who will make a good partner as they get older. The hot bimbo you dated in high school all of a sudden does not seem so great.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[spartan55]

Why don't you find out if he is still in a relationship. That would be the logical first step.

[Asker]

I think if the guy has something to declare he'll do it. I'm happy as I am. If I ask about his "status" and he's still with the gal I'm liable to get a nasty call/text from her. Not my cup of tea.

[spartan55]

@asker
Wow, you have all kinds of bullshit excuses. Why would she call you up angry for just asking if they were still together? That makes no sense.
I'm curious why you posted this at all because it doesn't seem like you have any real interest in him anyway?

[spartan55]

"if a guy has something to declare he'll do it." what th does that mean?
So, he is supposed to make sure you know his relationship status and show interest towards you. On the other hand, you so.
... NOTHING...😂 😂 .

[Asker]

@spartan55 what’re you talking about? YES if he’s suddenly flirting after years like that HE should mention there’s been some kind of change on his side. There’s NO reason or motivation for me to rock the boat. Nowadays guys are careless and women get nasty. Are you living under a rock or something?

[spartan55]

Pink anon, you have lost your mind. If you want to know something about someone YOU ask them. No one is obligated to disclose their personal business to you just because you won't. The fact that you won't just ask him is beyond weird and your excuses are even more weird. What boat would you be rocking? I don't live under a rock, I operate in a normal social society and don't expect to do nothing.
The oddest part is, again, why you bothered posting this in the first place?

[Asker]

Yeah. If last time we spoke -- and every time before that -- he's been in a relationship there's NO REASON for me to ask him "Duh... are you still with that girl?" That would be a really boneheaded thing to do.

[Asker]

Who's lost their mind, Spartan? Looks like your helmet's on too tight.

[spartan55]

Right, because people don't break up and things never change right?
Bill Clinton was President in 1998, maybe he still is, no one told me otherwise.😂

[spartan55]

I'd respect you a lot more if you would just admit you aren't comfortable asking him (for weird reasons understood by you only) and stop with these insane rationalizations.

[Asker]

Right... those two things are the same... And men are supposed to be the logical ones.

[slatyb]

So ask him out.

[Asker]

Nope. Sorry.

[slatyb]

So what do you want? Why are you asking?

[Asker]

I’m not raised to make the big moves on a guy. I’m raised to wait. And frankly he knows that.

I guess… I’m just not sure what to do if/when he does express his interest. I’m not a shy person in general, but with this… I don't know, I’m very nervous.

[spartan55]

She's raised to be a princess who expects everything to be handed to her while she does NOTHING... and she sees no issue with it.

[Asker]

And you think you’re not a troll, @spartan55? Why don’t you find someone else to harass you pos?

[RHK36]

Ask him goofy

[Asker]

😬😬😬 I don’t want to have misunderstood him and rock the boat. I’m fine with how things are.

[RHK36]

At least find out if he's single or taken. Not really a good person if he's flirting with you and had someone at home.

[Asker]

I will PRESUME he is still with his girlfriend of three years ago unless he tells me otherwise. I don't have to accept his flirting, obviously. I can just ignore it.

[RHK36]

So you flirted with him and didn't want to disturb what you have with him even though you're under the assumption he's already taken. Guys this era of women are cooked. Stay single until they chill out because you can't make this ish up.

[Asker]

@spartan55 I don't know, my spidey sense says if something seems too good to be true it generally IS too good to be true. (Don't roll your eyes at me... I'll come over there and pluck that helmet off you, lol.)

[spartan55]

Another excuse. 'Spidey sense'...😂 based on no facts whatsoever...

[Asker]

I know… I’m just not comfortable asking.

[Asker]

@rhk36 no, he flirted with me… no need to be rude towards me.