If a guy just wants to be friends with benefits, does that mean that he thinks you’re unattractive?

[Anonymous]

[Alex-Snow]

Not at all. He just does not want to be in a committed relationship but wants some fun orgasms. I am in a casual friends with benefits with a girl in college and she is way hot. Welllll the sex is also fantastic!

[BadApple69]

It just means he wasn’t sex and no responsibility of a relationship. It has nothing to do with your attractiveness.

[jazzy34]

No. He just wants a female friend who he can sleep with from time to time.

[ChicoFromThe305]

No just possibility not dating or marriage material

[Asker]

What makes a woman not dating or marriage material? Whenever I’ve (pathetically) asked a man why they only saw me as a friends with benefits. They didn’t have a real answer. Case in point: the last guy that was only interested in being FWBs said that we weren’t compatible because I wasn’t confident enough.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well for starters you do friends with benefits, sex for the most part is a privilege between couples, the fact that you willingly spread your legs to your friends can already be enough to throw you into the non dating material pile, because to many men it's just more attractive when a women isn't touched by other men or isn't touched by a lot of men, something that shouldn't be so easy to aquire you've made it easy to do so without needing any commitment so why would they commit? Personally I don't sleep around with people but I do know that I'm sure now you are wondering that if they see you as not material then why sleep with you and the answer to that is simple, why not? No commitment necessary, you've made that easy for them, even tho we can both agree that sex isn't the most important thing in a healthy relationship, it surely can effect how people see you if you are easy to get inside of, now for the other thing, he might just like confident women, maybe you are meeting the wrong people but I do think you should consider being harder to get if you want to ever be seen more than how you offer yourself.

[Asker]

You act like I’m sleeping around when I’ve only slept with one person. Whenever someone offers a friends with benefits situation, I decline.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't know what you do with your life but my point is that if you are accepting friends with benefits then you probably shouldn't be surprised if the same person you allowed to have sex with you without commitment wouldn't want commitment, I'm not judging, I'm just saying what might be causing your issue in this specific case, after all who wouldn't assume you are sleeping with anyone else.

[Asker]

… I’m not accepting these situations. I keep declining them.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Oh then that's not the issue, have you given off any bad first impressions?

[Asker]

From my understanding, people’s first impression of me is 1) I’m awkward/reserved/shy and 2) I seem stuck up/bougie/high maintenance

[ChicoFromThe305]

Those might be your issues since they probably get a materialistic vibe off you, it can be a turn off if that's true

[MannMitAntworten]

No. Just means he sees as nothing more than sex material. Saddle up…

[Asker]

Why? Many of these men didn’t even attempt to get to know me before proposing this type of arrangement. So, how would they know I’m not more than sex material?

[MannMitAntworten]

So don’t do it. Simple as that.

[Pterodon]

Not at all but it does mean he’s only interested in your pussy

[Asker]

Why?

[Pterodon]

Because he only wants a fuck buddy. These type relationships rarely evolve into more and usually end badly

[LEGENDARY4200]

Not at all. Otherwise he wouldn't be fucking you. If anything it goes the opposite direction. He trusts you

[jahaims]

It means he doesn't respect you and thinks of you as a cum rag

[ImBatman2000]

No. Quite the opposite. He is attracted to you enough to have sex.

[Flower7]

Yeah, probably. Don’t do it.

[Anonymous]

As a long term partner, yes.

[BarryLiverstone]

In a way

[Asker]

How so?

[BarryLiverstone]

Not attracted enough to be your boyfriend

[BarryLiverstone]

Why do you just want FTFs?

[Asker]

What is an “FTF”?

[BarryLiverstone]

Friends that fuq

[Asker]

I don’t. Hence, why I’m trying to figure out the reason why men proposition me with an friends with benefits situation.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because they want to