Why do so many guys get all cuddly and stuff when they’re drunk?

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OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

This happens with women too. Some people count cards at a casino. I count the drinks of the women around me. There is one married woman in particular who gets extremely huggy and touchy after 3 glasses of wine. I'm talking like a dozen hugs for some pretty obscure reasons and hands on my arms and chest. Another one gets downright raunchy after about 3 drinks. Another one thinks it's funny to come up behind me and put her arms around my chest while absolutely smashing her tits into my back. She thinks it's funny because I don't like her doing that. Yeah, there's nothing classier than having a moderately drunk woman groping me from behind unexpectedly in public when I'm having a conversation with someone else. So when these women hit whatever their drink limit happens to be, I'm either positioning myself where they can't get to me or, I'm outta there for the next place. It's maybe funny once or twice. It gets old fast.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

There are still great, many and varied negative consequences for men who express any emotion besides anger and desire. Even those get us in trouble more often than not now. Being under the influence of mind altering substances gives us an excuse to be human for a change; to actually express more of the things that we think and feel.
When those expressions cause offense, there is more forgiveness for a man who has done the unthinkable, if he was obviously altered chemically or some other way.

I knew a woman whose ex had been in a bad car accident. He received a pretty nasty injury to his head and brain. It altered the way he interacted with people; nearly completely incapable of reigning in his emotions. She took me to meet him. No joke, i saw no behavior uncommon to the average, healthy, able bodied woman of sound mind. But as a man, they diagnosed him with TBI. Ell oh ell!

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Same reason girls do it. Companionship and security... that sense of the other person being an element of your "safe space". I was walking with one of my guy friends the other day and we ended up walking v close, arm in arm, leaning in to whisper conspiratorially about the people and things around us till we got in the train (rather than driving, since we were both a bit tipsy), where we sat in the identical "legs crossed" position in such a way that they fit together like pieces of a puzzle; our arms were still intertwined, our heads leaning against each other...

We are *AT BEST* like brother and sister and always have been. It's just really nice to have someone you know isn't going to get the wrong idea when you're tipsy and trying to feel the warmth and comfort of a person you trust as one of your own.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

It's their interpretation of sincere intimacy. They are like girls on MDMA, when body contact matters more than fu**.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Well.."judging" by the Profile picture i guess..."that's your answer".. right there...🤔😉

MrOracle · Answer

When you drink, the first thing you lose are your inhibitions, followed very quickly by your good judgement. This means that people who are too shy or not self-confident enough to try to get physically close with someone suddenly aren't bothered by shyness or lack of self-confidence (they call it "liquid courage" for a reason).

People who are drunk tend to have their inner selves turned up to 90. The mean ones get super mean, the outgoing ones get super-outgoing, the quietly horny ones get a lot more obvious about being horny, and the shy ones who secretly want closeness stop being so shy about it.

236color · Answer

Alcohol breaks down inhibitions. Makes it harder to maintain the stoic mask. Emotions one wouldn't normally express come out, hence the old Latin expression "En vino veritas" (in wine there is truth), or as James McMurtry puts it, "Whiskey don't make liars, it just makes fools" This also brings up the point that alcohol also dulls restraint, makes it less likely he'll be aware of or concerned with consent. Drunk, horny guys can be dangerous, handle with care.

TrimmedTip · Answer

Alcohol lowers inhibitions and highlights true feelings. If he’s cuddly drunk, he might crave intimacy but hold back sober. It’s often a sign he feels safe with you — or just really needs a hug. 🥃🤗

I like your cover picture, by the way. Shall I recreate it, please?

Zack-Bann · Answer

Pretty damn sure they’d love to get all cuddly with you while being stone cold sober

But being drunk gives them the age old excuse of “oh sorry I was drunk and I get like that hope I didn’t offended you”

The truth is: unless they’re blacked out, most guys still have total control over their actions and choices.
They just chose to cuddle with you
(Because who wouldn’t)

NathanDavis · Answer

because they fell... and are struggling to get up

ManOnFire · Answer

Can't speak on this because I never get drunk, in fact I hardly drink alcohol at all anymore. But I would imagine guys getting cuddly would just be another factor of the alcohol giving them a warm, comfortable feeling where they start being all touchy feely. Girls do the same thing when they're drunk too, they start touching you or falling all on you. I can definitely say I've experienced that.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Alcohol has always caused guys to become more amorous. It’s obviously more noticeable the more standoffish or shy a guy is naturally when sober. Let’s be honest though it’s not just guys is it !!

Personally I love hugs but they scream friendzone and given so freely. My hugs less so !

Nikki1989 · Answer

Well, it is just not men that act like that.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Many get physically abusive, especially Indian boys who are incorrectly portrayed as harmless funny nerds when they are extremely disrespectful once you REJECT them. They start threatening and bullying me when they realise they aren’t my dream boys.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I wish it was as generalized as you said lol . Cause it's not really obvious around me. As for myself, the reason why I get cuddly is because alcohol simply uninhibits me, it melts the mental shields I'm using

MemeSupreme · Answer

ik a lot of girls who get like that too i think some people just become more comfortable and affectionate when drunk

Apple1996 · Answer

God forbid a man gets a little drunky and his emotions start to show

jshm2 · Answer

Essentially that is what "lower inhibitions" means.  Sure, some get violent, when drunk. But that's usually personal problems and insecurities bubbling tot he fore.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

"Why do people do X when drunk?" The question literally answers itself. Because they're drunk and have less inhibitions.

Levin · Answer

It's relaxation. In Chinese medicine they're becoming more yin, ie embodying more of the female element in nature.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

My guess is that it has something to do with you having a very cuddlable physique.  Based solely on that profile picture, of course.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

They think you have brought two large cushions for them! 😮👍

Miristheiss · Answer

I will definitely tell you... whenever I actually get drunk for the first time.

Darklydarkened · Answer

Alcohol removes boundaries, you see. And being cuddly and stuff is standard procedure for men

fonduegirl · Answer

Coz they are emotionally repressed otherwise

SotiCoto · Answer

Because that is what they're really like... but when they're sober they're more aware of others' boundaries.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I imagine the liquid courage is taking effect on them just as it does with women.

Wise4myage · Answer

Booze helps to give us courage and lower our defenses.

soe11 · Answer

It's a natural thing  Off dressed and sex too.

Alex-Snow · Answer

It maybe because the booze makes them less inhibited. Do you think it also makes them want sex more?

Gaylordslav · Answer

When I drink sex is the last thing I care for. Already try too hard to jerk off to women sober, being drunk i have 0 interest in anything sex

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Alcohol shuts down the #metoo part of the brain.

Circushowcowboy · Answer

It’s probably the only time they are vulnerable to emotions like that

BLP11520 · Answer

Probably because their guard is down a lot of men wish they could cuddle and snuggle more. That’s what I think🫂

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Don’t a lot of women also get the same way? I’m really not sure why this is surprising

Ayaan00001 · Answer

There is no drinks which are only made for people to cuddles

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Well, my dear. I'm not an espurt , but I would assume. Are women the same from time to time

Jeff51 · Answer

Dint know. I don't drink but I can be cuddly.

nawtee_me · Answer

They have to get to first base before they can make a home run…. lol

Anonymous · Answer

Same reason women are more likely to fuck when they are drunk..

Flower7 · Answer

This is common in both genders.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Cause thats what they really feel. How have been haven't seen you on much?

Anonymous · Answer

I imagine it's for the same reasons women do the same.

avery58 · Answer

Cause they're drunk

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they want to get laid

Paige90 · Answer

Because they are horny

Bloodparadise · Answer

Bcoz That's when they let their guard down

DJB72 · Answer

That beats the alternative extreme, surely...

LiaRaven · Answer

Because they are drunk

exitseven · Answer

girls do the same thing.

WonderingManII · Answer

Cause they are not thinking straight.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Who needs a drink for that 😏.

Jennz6 · Answer

It happens all the time

Dongie · Answer

Its called horny. Not cuddly.

Jackblue · Answer

Alcohol brings out our emotions.

dragoblack · Answer

Both genders get like that.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why women---

blackeagle007 · Answer

Uhhhh definitely not me!

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

Their inhibitions are lowered.

qwerty2469 · Answer

That gets their dick sucked

JohnnyB123321 · Answer

I do. lol

Anonymous · Answer

Plausible deniability.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I never get drunk.

eagle1951 · Answer

not sure i never did that

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