What does it mean when a guy says he feels bad when he can’t tell you what you two are when you ask him about it?

[Anonymous]

What could this possibly mean?

[spartan55]

It definitely means he doesn't want a committed relationship with you.

[Asker]

It’s just me isn’t it 😕

[spartan55]

I don't know, maybe he doesn't want a relationship at all.

[AndrésC64]

Probably he doesn't know. Don't read too much into it.

[jazzy34]

🚩🚩🚩

[Asker]

What’s you think the “feels bad” part?

[jazzy34]

I wouldn’t put too much thought into that part. He sounds like he’s playing you keeping you as an option. For all you know, you may not be the only woman he’s entertaining. If you’re looking to be in a serious relationship, don’t you DARE settle. Don’t settle for crumbs when you deserve the whole cake.

[Asker]

That’s good because I’ve been pretty distant after he said that but he still reaches out but I’ve been coming off as distant and cold and literally replying two days later

[jazzy34]

I recently got out of a very similar situation. Men like that don’t deserve time or attention.

[Asker]

I wasn’t even asking him to be my boyfriend. I just wanted to know where I stood because I was so confused. I told him he wasn’t gonna hurt me if you gave me the answer that I didn’t like I’d rather know the truth. Because I just wanted to set my boundaries so I don’t expect or look forward to anything more or hope for anything more. He said I’m more than just a friend, but doesn’t know what to exactly call us and doesn’t know what the future holds for us. I said it’s either we’re just friends friends with benefits. (Which I’m not down for.) or what is it and he can’t even give me a simple answer.

[Asker]

Whatever though I deleted his contact because I don’t know his number by heart so there’s no way of me reaching out. It’s been seven months and still can’t even simply give me an answer.

[jazzy34]

Yeahh. Sounds like he’s stringing you along. I’d cut the cord, if I were you. That’s what I had to do in my situation.

[jazzy34]

Good for you! You deserve someone who’s going to be clear and honest with you.

[Asker]

Yeah, he texted me last night, but I didn’t reply and he usually text me in the morning, but he didn’t text me today so 🤷🏽‍♀️ I guess

[Asker]

I do deserve better

[jazzy34]

You absolutely do. He’s not what you want. Go ahead and block him.