Can a man actually call his guy friend and tell him goodnight without it being weird?

[Anonymous]

OF COURSE TIK TOK, but a trend started a while ago where men would call their guy friends and wish them a goodnight. The friends on the other end were absolutely NOT comfortable with this. Many made "jokes" about them acting gay, many asking if it was a prank, many feeling really weirded out as to why their male friend would ever call them in this way, and some becoming worried thinking this was a cry for help, aka, potential s**cide last calls. Notice the trend involves men, because women would just be like, okay, bye, goodnight, or maybe ask why the random call, but nothing more.

So why are you guys seemingly so uncomfortable with a male friend just saying goodnight?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Masculine culture harms everyone, including stuff like this. Masculine standards for itself are insanely strict, allowing for only strength and sexual power as positive aspects of oneself. This turns into men refusing any and all forms of vulnerability to their detriment. They can’t be emotionally open, they can’t go to the doctor when they’re sick, and they can’t have meaningful platonic relationships. They’re men, they have to be “manly” they have to be sex fiends that can punch out the lights of another man in an instant. It’s honestly bullshit and having people make fun of guys who are trying to change that in a wholesome way only furthers these obviously toxic patterns of behavior.

[Asker]

...and women are to blame...of course.

I see this all the time. Why can't men cry...because women they say. I'm like, in a room full of men, with zero women around, you tell me, why you can't cry if you're in obvious emotional pain. That has nothing to do with me who is not even there to judge you in anyway, shape, or form. They built this world in which men have to be unbreakable then blame us, when it fails them. I'm not on the phone when these guys are trying to say goodnight and yet, to each other, the reactions are all of the above...be a man, blah, blah. I can't end toxic masculinity in the same way I can't stop women from things like body shaming if we're not the ones first and foremost refusing to do it to ourselves or men, to themselves.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

No, men make masculine culture, not women. This is all a result of the patriarchy

[Anonymous]

Not unless you were together earlier that night and both potentially heavily imbibed

[jahaims]

It's weird