When a guy says he wants to see you more instead of asking you out?

[Anonymous]

I had a great first date with a guy and we’ve been casually texting since. He sent me a message saying ‘I think I want to see you more’. Why wouldn’t he just outright ask for another date? I want to see him too but I don’t wanna seem too keen. How can I respond?

[Anonymous]

Could be a few things. He doesn’t want to pressure you into setting an actual date. It could be that he’s worried you’ll reject him. A lot of us have know when a person like sis but we still doubt it so we don’t take that extra step forward a lot of times. He’s tossed a line (fishing analogy) out, so why not respond w asking him out or say when’s a good time. It might take a little of that pressure off of him if you nibble a little at the line by opening that door for him to come in. It could also be that he’s seeing other women on the side so he doesn’t want to commit to something just yet till he knows his schedule as far as these other women. He may just be saying that to string you along so you don’t stray from him. If a man is seeing someone else, whether it’s dating or an friends with benefits or even a wife or girlfriend, but he got a nibble on the side he may say things like that to string you along to keep you at bay.

[Asker]

Thanks. I’ve replied to him in a way that shows interest but I didn’t actually ask him out again. Hopefully he will ask me. I’m just taking it slow and seeing how things go. Yeah it was hard to know exactly what he meant by it though, like was he just fishing and worried that I wouldn’t want to go out with him, or was he wanting me to chase him or something

[Opinion Owner]

What exactly did you say to him?

[In_Trance]

Semantics are going to fuck this up for you

[Asker]

What do you mean? Do you think I’m just thinking too much about this? Lol

[In_Trance]

Absolutely