Im really not sure what to say to him. Help?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys so a really quick one, just want to know what to do now since I've tried most things.

Been with my partner for about a year were very loving and compatible in every way but one... sex. Im much more experienced and a whole lot more adventurous which normally isn't an issue however today is a different story, we didn't actually have pen sex just oral and hand involved on him and vice versa, he finished first and that's fine now I wasn't quite done although close, now when i did start having the big o one after the other after a few he stopped and that was that. I was honestly kind of shocked as I did like it and made it clear "dont stop! Carry on !" etc. I've tried explaining that he does satisfy me but sometimes I just need a little more as my sex drive is a lot higher.

I dont know how to tell him that now and then I need a bit more than he's willing to give and like in a nice way. I dont want to hurt him or anything and I love him a lot so I dont want to leave him but im really wracking my brain trying to figure out what to say or do?

Thanks guys

[Clear_Skies10]

I think you just gotta sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Have no fear. What's he gonna say, no? He will probably say "Oh, I didn't realize you weren't done. I'll do whatever you need honey."

[Asker]

Been there i tried he just isn't bothered because I "finished a few times already"

[Clear_Skies10]

That's unfortunate. I was the opposite in that I really wanted to please my partners, it meant the world to me. I also enjoyed doing that stuff. I guess you might have to decide how important sexual compatibility is to you. If he won't make an effort, then he's possibly not the right person for you.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you’ve got something psychological going on and you should get help.

[Asker]

There's something definitely going on up there i know that for a fact but I won't get into that here

[Opinion Owner]

Have you tried therapy? Professional help?

[BarryLiverstone]

Is this an issue every session or a few times a month?

[Asker]

Few times a month

[BarryLiverstone]

Work with your partner to identify when these few times a month is and how he can help you meet your sexual desires. One possibility is you start before him, masturbating with a sexual toy. So that by the time he joins you have had a few releases and he can join you in the last few that will satisfy both of you. Bottom line you know you need more and can work with him on solutions rather than both end up frustrated