I cried in a voicenote telling a man I liked him, he heard it and never replied back then sends me this 5 weeks later?

[Anonymous]

It's not your fault it was me and I'm sorry for hurting you can we still be pals can we still be pals I'm going through a lot just now sorry you don't need to reply I just want you to know x

He was sleeping with me then ghosting me it was just a horrible cycle then when I opened up to him admitted I liked him he ignored me. He sent this at 12.20am

Thoughts?

[Amy_Mi]

That’s a clear pattern of inconsistency and emotional unavailability.

Someone who values you doesn’t leave a voicenote unanswered for weeks, especially after knowing your feelings.

Late night messages after ghosting aren’t gestures of care, they’re often convenience or guilt, not genuine interest.

Your energy and vulnerability deserve reciprocation, not cycles of confusion.

Protect your clarity and standards first.

[Asker]

He was told to go away at half 9 this morning and blocked. I don't play those games or am I a puppet on string.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You invested yourself in a shitty man. It sucks, and I doubt it’s the first time that’s happened to you, but unloading all of that out of seemingly nowhere was probably a lot. You ever consider therapy?

[Asker]

What you on about he sent me that message not the other way around. I haven't spoken to him in 5 weeks he sent me that message

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I’m talking about your voice note where you cried and confessed your love for him. That’s a little concerning. Were you drunk when you sent it? Is that why you were crying?

[Asker]

No I sent it because I did like him at the time. When he wasn't ghosting me he was affectionate but I'm up to date on the cycle of his coming and goings and as I posted to the fella above I've also got far worse things going on in my life but would never use that as an excuse to treat anyone badly.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Not intentionally. You poured your heart out to him in what sounds like a very dramatic fashion and you probably scared him.

[Asker]

There was no dramatic fashion I told him I liked him and was scared he'd come back and do worse to me as I'd been in a similar situation before I also told him I wouldn't contact him again and deleted his number. I've put up with his ghosting nonsense since March and it came to a head. Think he wanted me to chase and beg and I'm not doing that for any man again.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Then you rather dramatically rejected him, and he apologized for hurting you

[Shiprex]

That's sad for you and it's not uncommon because once you've slept with someone there's a potential bond that forms for one but not the other. He's not looking for serious right now but you seem to want that.

Wrong time Wrong person.

[Asker]

I know this that's why I replied go away and blocked him. He heard my voicenote 5 weeks ago chose to ignore it and been silent until he sent me that. Unsure what he wanted probably to feel better about himself because some woman knocked him back not at my expense I'm older wiser and not stupid

[Shiprex]

He's not ready to provide what you want right now. Good luck in your search for your desires

[Superstar411]

He doesn't appear to be interested in you. By you going and chasing after him it makes you look desperate. I'm sure if you look around you'll find yourself a good guy

[Asker]

I didn't chase he sent me that message after 5 weeks

[Superstar411]

It sounds like he's in the need of something now that's why he's reaching out to you

[Iron_Man]

They always make that excuse I’m going through a lot right now but he wasn’t going through too much to want to be able to sleep with you was he?

[Asker]

I've just told him to go away and blocked him. I opened up my feelings when he was treating me bad. I'm also going through a lot just now I'm homeless and I'm depression I'd never use that as an excuse to hurt or ignore anyone or use it to message someone at 12am to gain attention either.

[Iron_Man]

I’m very sorry to hear that. I hope things improve for you.

[Asker]

It's a cycle since March. hot and cold push and pull him hurting me, me not chasing getting the blatant hint and then he comes back same over and over.
don't think he realises that women get fed up, they want security, to at least feel they are cared for. I got shit on and used and that sorry excise after 5 weeks is not going to cut it with me the trust has gone so is that like.
Thank you ill get there eventually once down the only way is up I hope

[Iron_Man]

He’s just using you for sex that’s that

[Iron_Man]

Don’t get involved with him

[itsannalee]

No one is too busy, they just not interested.

[Asker]

I knkw which is why i told him to go away and blocked him