Why he says less around to me around others. But with me, alone he's chatty?

[Anonymous]

So, I want to say about 3-4 months ago, this guy was giving me all this attention and being overly friendly at work with me. And it's crazy, because our supervisor didn't really introduced me properly to the people who I was going to be working with. The only person, that she never was the person, that's shadowing under her. Other people, I either introduce myself to them, or them to me. Anyways, fast forwarding. So with the guy, I start assuming, that he was interested in me because how he was interacting with me, and finding excuses to come to my station to talk with me. So, things was going good, between him and I, until he asked the girl that's under the supervisor, to ask me to vacuum his floors. So she basically told me what he asked for. And I'm like, I'm not even done with my task. So, as I was walking upstairs to his work area. I ran into him, and he greeted me with a friendly hello and say thank you, then walked outside smh. So, I told him as he was passing by that I was going to have to contact our supervisor, to make sure that it was okay with her. To be continue...

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8 mo

So fast forwarding I did just as that, and she was not having it. So she touched base with him, I told him basically that he was going to have to do his own stuff. So, he mentioned to me that she was going to talk to him, and tell him to keep his distance and say hello and keep it moving. So she said basically if I didn't sign you to that duties, then don't do it, and tell people no. Basically she said don't let people try to run over you. So, he kept away from me. And there was tension.

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8 mo

Until he broke the silence, and decided to talk with me again. I honestly didn't care tbh afterwards I was pulling back from the situation and him. But there was a time that I supervisor mention out loud and said let me know if anybody is bothering you. And he said thank you. So it's like, why go out of your way to get my attention, just to make this crazy eye contact with me, then avoid me with others around. But want to talk with me in private. Like could it be?

[HollyK21]

I think the whole floor vacuuming situation is what made him back off from you. It doesn’t sound like you were wrong for bringing this up to your supervisor, and honestly that’s probably why he asked the person under her, because he knew he’s not supposed to be asking you to do those tasks. I also wonder if that’s why he was trying to build a connection with you, so that he could ask favors and you do them without taking issue because you and him had gotten closer.

[Asker]

I agree. Because see supervisor and other workers speaks bad of him, and how lazy he is and how he doesn't do his job. But, even after she spoke with him. He didn't ask anything else, of course he backed off for a period of time. But, that didn't stop him from contacting me again and wanting to talk. But, maybe he is trying to keep things professional and people out his business. But, I just don't understand, a little. Like if he was talking to me before, then why the switch up. Girl, it's just crazy. Because after a while he starts crashing out, when I withdraw my energy. Smh

[HollyK21]

Well, that would be why the switch up, he’s acting like you ratted him out or something when that’s not the case. This guy is an opportunist, who’s lazy, doesn’t do his job and wants others to do things for him. Nobody is trying to deal with that. He’s already made his impressions with other coworkers, so since you were new it was like a clean slate. You came in not knowing anything about him or his rep so he probably thought he could manipulate you (or make a good impression) with attention, maybe even a little mild flirting, and get you to do what other coworkers won’t. It backfired and so he’s backing off. Plus he’s probably been told something by the supervisor about bothering you with tasks you weren’t appointed.

[Asker]

Right, because lately he's being talked about, and that's not good. Has much as he is adorable to me! and are connection is good. Your right, and not to rat him out. But he has a daughter, not sure of her age. But, I Wonder if he cleans up after her when she makes a mess. But, he needs to get it together, like if he needs help. Ask questions or ask for it. I know, my friend mentioned to me and said maybe you could be his motivation to speed up his work performance. But, all he do is sit on the damn phone and run his mouth. I would hate to see him getting fired, :/. And tbh, instead of him acting all weird and acting like he can't say ish to me. He needs to focus on his damn work and maintaining trying to keep his job. That's why, when mi supervisor: tells me to tighten up, I do just as that. Now, if he really doesn't have any real help then I feel bad for him. Because sometimes even with me, they have expectations and respect certain things to get done at a particular time. Like I come in around 9ish and they want the basement to get done before 12p. m that's consider lunch time. Is it possible to do that. Yes! but when there telling me to start a different task at hand and come back to the basement. That can be very challenging. Because the basement is priority. I work for a college campus. So, we don't no what's really going on to why he's getting back up. But the point is, he really does need to figure out a new strategy and a new game plan. Because we're all grown here and they're not going to treat us like kids, unless we act like one. But still, he and I still maintain a healthy work relationship with each other. So I don't know. But anyways thank you 😊😊

[Nikki1989]

A person who is genuinely trying to date or court you does not ask you to perform menial labor for them.

[Asker]

Right, they don't ask about the person doing their job. Agreed. But I'm pretty sure the supervisor probably said, more than just the talk. That man, is terrify ift getting caught with being seen with me. Smh

[In_Trance]

Ask him why