Do guys really put some girls on a pedestal and does that make you less likely to go for her?

[Anonymous]

Is this a real thing and is it enough to put you off ever making a move?

[RedTiefling]

It is real. But as with most generalizations, it is not every man. Some grow out of it, some never do.

It can be rooted in self esteem, whether they're looking for a partner or not, or they have little experience with women.

Women are just people, they shit, sweat, and worry the same as any other human.

[Asker]

Ok thanks and if they do that, does it make guys usually too afraid to approach them or not be themselves?

[RedTiefling]

Sure, maybe they think you're too pretty for them. Maybe they're worried about being embarrassed. Or maybe they think you already have a boyfriend.

I'll say this, it certainly doesn't help your chances if you put a girl on a pedestal.

[Anonymous]

For some people, yes. The more I like a girl, the more risky there is in taking action. For me, I wanted to make a move, but I got way too nervous to do anything when I was near her. I saw her very frequently, so it was easy to think that I could wait for a later opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Yes. And yes, when he puts the wring woman on a pedestal, which a lot of guys do. It's like touching a hot stove. Once you've been burned you learn not to do it again.

[Asker]

How do you mean? Why does he put her on a pedestal and when you say burnt? You mean she hurts him in some way or he just thinks he’s too good for him and then feels intimidated and can’t go with her?

[Opinion Owner]

He puts her on a pedestal because he doesn't see the game she's playing with him. Her entire persona is one carefully crafted act. He didn't fall in love with her and put her on a pedestal. It was all engineered by her. He walked right into the trap. Now he's got feelings so it's going to hard for him to extract himself from the situation. Now he more woman wary. He might get tricked again by another succubi. But he won't get tricked the same way. Some guys have longer learning curves than others.