Does he think I am fat?

[Anonymous]

I was on a date with a guy at his place. We were sitting in the living room when he asked, “Do you want to go to my bedroom?” I said, “No, I’m comfy here,” lol. Then he insisted, and I refused again.

He ended up picking me up and carrying me up 2–3 flights of stairs to his room. I was holding on for dear life. I used to be super overweight, so I was honestly shocked that he could carry me. I’ve lost weight since then—I’m around 63 kg (138 lbs) now—but I still feel super fat.

When we got upstairs, he put me down and said, “You’re not that heavy.” Ever since, I’ve been overthinking it. What does “that heavy” even mean? Am I still heavy or what? 😩

He also asked, “You didn’t think I could carry you?”

Do you guys think he still feels I should lose more weight?

[bowenw]

It's difficult to know without a picture or at least knowing your height.

[berserk945]

He can carry you so, no he doesn't think you need to loose more weight.

Do you want to lose more is the question. But make sure you are i. A health weight category for your height and body frame.

[Subgurl]

It entirely depends on how tall you are and how much muscle mass you have. Weight alone is a largely meaningless metric alone.

[dudeinohio]

Don't overthink. Someone who weighs 90 pounds isn't "that heavy". (probably is for me... getting old sucks) It's all relative.

[Anonymous]

Mind readers don’t work holidays.

[slatyb]

You aren't heavy.