Does my boyfriend think I'm fat?

[Urfavblondegemini]

My boyfriend and I were talking and I said something about how I thought I was flat. He then said that I'm "thick with triple C's". He's also made comments about my thighs being really soft and pillow-like.

I've flat out asked him if he thought I was and seemed very adamant that I wasn't and asked why I could even think that. I still worry that he thinks I am and is just disguising it with "compliments".

Just for reference: I have a healthy BMI, I'm a three sport varsity athlete, and I work out. I don't know if this will mean anything to anyone, but I'm a 34 C.

[Dan_cColt]

Depends because "thick" and "fat" is different for men, because thick just means more curvy in the right places. Also, has your boyfriend displayed anything else to suggest he wants you to "slim down" or that he even cares for a certain body weight. I think having an honest convo where you speak straight and stern would invoke a better convo and also to ask genuinely and not come off as being mad at him. If he tells you unprovoked then he's being an ass but I wouldn't genuinely think he'd still be with you if that changed his appeal for you.

[rm_llort]

He sounds like he cares about your feelings. He's trying to tell you gently. If you weren't fat you wouldn't feel insecure about this. Moreover if you're mad at him for saying it gently is it a wonder he wasn't more direct?

You should diet and move more. He'll notice you've listened to him and will love you more for taking better care of yourself.

[Saturn122]

Body Dismorphia. Is something almost every teen girl struggles with. She said she was at a healthy BMI meaning she doesn't NEED to loose weight. As someone who was a 15 year old girl whos weight distribution was a bit bottom heavy and had my body carrying weight in a new way I hated my self. So even if she feels insecure about her body it in no way is indicative of what she looks like or her health.

[rm_llort]

@Saturn122 BMI is a poor method of determining health. If you're overweight it 100% impacts your health and if people genuinely cared about each other they'd encourage telling people when they're overweight.

[Saturn122]

You are correct in the statement that bmi can be a poor indication of health as some Olympic athletes are considered obese because of the amount of muscle mass they have. But in the original post she said she plays three varsity sports. My point isn't that being overweight is healthy it's that you can be insured about your weight by no means is at all connected to your actual health. And I agree with you if someone is leading an unhealthy life style there is nothing wrong with trying to support them.

[Anonymous]

Girl, you’re 15. So I’m gonna assume your boyfriend is around 15 years old as well. Sometimes boys say stupid things, especially boys around that age. So I would cut him some slack.

34C is not flat, and it sounds like you take good care of your body and health. Even if you were flat or out of shape, it’s okay to say kind things about your own body. :)

[EmmaMary]

You've certainly picked yourself a completely unintelligent, disrespectful, pathetic lowlife of a boyfriend.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[MementoMori777]

Being thick and day are two different things, usually thick girls got curves

[Bigjake1995]

Fuck him

[lonelyforeverr]

Yes.

[normandi]

Ask the scale