Does my boyfriend think I'm fat?

[lil_devil_77506]

I am 5'5 and was 137 lbs when we first started dating and I'm at 147 now but he doesn't look at me the same and the other night I reached for something high at a store and he said "pull your shirt down, your stomach is hanging out." I have always had a small pudge there, no matter what exercise I do. BUT now I wonder if he thinks I need to lose some weight.

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Did anyone ever think he was just being polite and honest? Not saying you're fat, but rather pointing out that your shirts up. Much like pointing out a boob slip (that wouldn't make you think that he believes your boobs are too fat?), or a hanging booger (that wouldn't make you think he believes your nose is gross?).. Surely you don't think he believes you're fat, just because he pointed out that your stomach was showing...

As for the "he doesn't look at me the same anymore", that could be simply because he is so use to you. It happens in every relationship. You have to find personal ways to spark his interest again. Don't be lazy-- do something new with him. And don't think for a moment there isn't anything you could do, because then you will have already given up and may as well accept full responsibility in your relationship failing.

Now on to your insecure belly size... "i have always had a small pudge there, no matter what exercise I do" -- for one, there is no one exercise that does it. You don't just do an exercise once then bam perfect body. You don't want to think you're fat anymore? You have to be ambitious enough to workout everyday to get that nice slim stomach that you're satisfied with. If you don't workout regularly, and skip sometimes, don't expect results. And don't even think that you tried hard to get rid of that flab, you didn't. Working out 8 times a month, although better than 0 times, is not much and will NOT give you any results. So don't expect any unless you're truly ambitious and don't lie to yourself if you aren't. In any case, if the idea that he thinks you're fat is going to bother than you, then you need to workout everyday for 30mins to an hour (at least). Or find another man who doesn't care that you're fat. But ideally changing men doesn't change your body size, so you'll always be insecure about it unless you truly try to get rid of it.

Sorry to put it so bluntly, but sometimes you just have to look at things realistically. Think I'm an asshole, that's fine and I'm sorry... but just take the advice seriously.

[lil_devil_77506]

im in the army, I work out daily!

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Well if you're not in perfect shape it's not your bodies fault. You don't miraculously take in more calories than the average person. The whole slow metabolism myth is a scapegoat for lazy people. You may workout everyday.. but that doesn't mean you're working out at a high intensity. It's like saying I went out 5 miles today... but did you bike that 5 miles (real easy)? did you walk it (moderately easy)? Did you run it (moderate workout)? Did you run it as fast as you could (hard)? etc..

[Anonymous]

If that pic is how you currently look then you don't need to lose any weight. If you look as bad as the woman here: link then yeah you need to lose weight. According to this body mass index: link you're at the right weight for your height.

[Anonymous]

He's rude. That's all I can say. Good boyfriends support you not crticize you. Even if you're overweight he should say smth like "I love everything about you no matter what " and if he wants you to lose weight he may encourage you to jog together or smth. Compare this model to your boyfriend. Never ever get down by crticism. Everyone is unique the way he is. :)

[Anonymous]

im 5'8" and 128 lbs ...my boyfriend says stuff like that ha ha theyre guys they don't think before they say something they just being silly. I'm sure your boyfriend loves the way you look. don't worry about it and if you are ask him.

[TheCheshireCat]

Maybe he wanted you to pull your shirt down so no other guys saw your stomach. I guess you could ask him to know for sure.

[ItalianBro]

I doubt he was saying your fat. However, how do you gain 10 pounds? I think you do need to go to the gym and start working out. Not just to lose weight but to stay healthy. Eating healthy and working out should be a normal everyday thing. The goal should be to live a long healthy life and not just to lose weight. My ex girlfriend would say that she needed to work out or that she would start going to the gym with me to lose weight.

[Prof_Don]

Assuming the girl in your profile pic is you...your weight is just fine. Most real men are not going to mind some pudge on the tummy; women are naturally softer than men are (no homo).

I agree with the people saying he was just concerned about your shirt going over your stomach.

[Anonymous]

omg is 10 pounds really that big of a deal for him?

maybe he didn't mean it like "your fat is hanging out" but he meant your shirt is coming up. some people are really modest like that

but if he liked your body before and you only gained 10 pounds since then, I doubt it made that much of a difference and makes you "fat" now

[missstacey14356]

you know that's a pretty messed up thing to do and you should talk to you boyfriend about it because no boyfriend should say rude things like that to his girlfriend

[hmuse22]

If he truly cares for you it shouldn't matter. The best thing to do is talk to him about it. If you are comfortable with who you are he should be to.

[eyehug]

Its not fat. You are 5'5 and 147. Its not really a matter. First of all you look great on your pic and you probably have better curves than some girls. I'm talking about a nice butt and nice breast.

[katiesmuff]

I doubt he was considering you fat, I think it was just because the shirt raised up and exposed your stomach.

[antics333]

I don't mind a little weight on a girl. And why should he complain anyway with big beautiful ass t*ts like yours? :)~~~~~

[DJKlaasJan]

idk what he thinks but if he's not interested then I have no problem taking you away from him lol

[sikoo31]

you look good in the pic, he shouldn't think you're fat.

[Anonymous]

no I wouldn't say you are fat my girlfriend is 5,4 and she's 180... she's just thick boned you are probably athletic built

[Anonymous]

well no offense but that guy needs to go any guy that says that to his woman is not a very good one. He's one of those guys that think if your not a skinny little twin then your not good enough

[MikeVick4MVP]

either way your hella fine...loving the pic