Does my boyfriend want me to be fat?

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I can’t figure out if my boyfriend is trying to make me fat or not. Everyday, he ask me if I have ate or not. If I haven’t, he cooks me dinner and always encourages me to eat a second helping. He’s also always trying to make sure I’m snacking on chips, cookies, or ice cream. When I eat, he tells me we need to keep my booty “nice and fat.” Doesn’t he realize this is also going to make my belly “nice and fat” as well? When we lay down together, he always has his hand on my stomach. I realized I put on a small pot belly in the past two months. Since my tummy started growing, he starting grabbing the little fat roll I have and saying “little belly” when he grabs it. I told him I wanted to join the gym and he said I don’t need to. Does it sound like he’s trying to make me chubby?

SweetMC · Accepted Answer

Maybe cooking for him is a sign of affection to you. I wouldn’t automatically assume the worst. If it becomes a problem just tell him although you appreciate the thoughtfulness you don’t want to feel pressured every time food is around. He may not even realize he is offending you and instead may think he’s the best boyfriend around. All up to interpretation, good luck.

confusedgirl9 · Accepted Answer

Since so many guys are about control the first thing I thought was that he wants you to control what you eat, whether or not you exercise, and since chips and ice cream aren't healthy and for sure will make ANYONE gain pure fat... I'm thinking he may want you to become unhealthily large so that he feels more able to keep you to himself... creeeeeeepy

HANAZAWA · Accepted Answer

I am afraid so. Fat fetishism. You may need to have a talk with him to find out more. Politely and gently letting him know the health risks those food might be posing to you. If you do not wish to upset him by talking to him about your concern, jogging will help a lot.

AaronKrieger · Accepted Answer

He has one of those food feeding fetishes. If you want to lose weight or live a healthy lifestyle then I suggest you ignore his attempts. If he can't accept that which he probably won't then I would breakup with him. You should be with someone cares about your health, not someone who isn't and goes against your wishes.

Arslanbaig · Accepted Answer

No, he's being nice in my opinion, making sure your not hungry and reassuring you that your belly don't effect him. He probably said you don't need the gym because he feels if he says you do you might feel self conscious. Best way to know is to ask, he won't take any offence 😊

MemeSupreme · Answer

If someone was trying to do that to me I'd leave that person. I've been abused and controlled before, and I'm not going to have that happen to me even more. I suggest you leave the guy before it's too late. He clearly doesn't care about your health and only cares for his urges or preferences. He sounds controlling and selfish.

TripleAce · Answer

well eating is like a drug... right  drug addicts like to share their addiction with others... share that pleasure  your boyfriend also wants you to indulge with him...

jellyroo · Answer

It's a no-brainer. Yes, your boyfriend wants you to put on weight, and is actively trying to make sure you do. I'd suggest to run for the hills.

10dsw · Answer

Sounds like it, yea. Some guys have a fat fetish + most guys prefer a woman who has curves when it comes to relationships (surprise!)

Malita55 · Answer

He probably likes you bigger (that’s what I’m hoping) or he may think you’re too good for him and is trying to make you bigger so less people will go for you.

Jayden01 · Answer

You have found a guy who doesn't mind what body type you are and he loves you for you. It shouldn't matter about weight, he's probably just being kind and giving you gifts (food) and making you dinner as a sign of how much he loves you.

MaddyMax · Answer

It seems so, but unless you don't want him to do that I'd end the relationship if he keeps going against your wishes.

emford · Answer

Yes, maybe he feels your underweight and prefers a more “meety” woman

GL_Rein · Answer

He might be into that. Nothing wrong, unless you dont wanna put on weight

nottooserious41 · Answer

A lot of guys like girls with a little extra weight cause biologically it means a woman is less likely to die during childbirth which means more kids so he might be lol

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

He loves that you have extra booty on you. Maybe he wants you to be chubby.

Anonymous · Answer

No one can make you fat, but you. He may want you to be fatter, and encourage you, but it's up to you. Take some responsibility!

TacosRAwesome · Answer

It sounds lke it especially if you're not too thin.

birdie_man · Answer

I totally say that you should be the one who will decide whenever you should eat or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl he’s 100% is trying to make you fat. That’s not normal. He should want you to be healthy and should support your choice to go to the gym

jimyee · Answer

He's just fattening you up to make a tasty stew

Ripper_E · Answer

Maybe he's a chubby chaser.

ciitruskiwi · Answer

Maybe he likes chubby girls?

Agent · Answer

lmao what your boyfriend's funny

rockrewls · Answer

He sounds like what's known as a "feeder"

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