My boyfriend wants me to be fat?

[Anonymous]

we've been going out for about a year now. recently he's been taking me to fast food places, DQ, the cheesecake factory...ordering me large dishes and asking me to eat it all. so I do. he says I look cute when I eat.

i've noticed about a 15 lb weight gain and he keeps on rubbing all my fat. it makes me feel gross, but he loves it and I love him loving me.

it started off cute when he was treating me & stuff, but now it's worrying me because we got kinky last week & he tied me up and fed me chocolate cake until I moaned.

why does he want me fat? and should I go along with it?

[Quadrophonic84]

If you are uncomfortable doing something, don't do it. Even if it makes him happy in the short term, it builds passive aggressive resentment in you for the long term. You'll end up being angry at him for "no reason" - just like any other thing that would bother a girl in a relationship that she decides to just go along with and not say anything. You're only putting it off by not dealing with it now.

[Asker]

but he loves it so much and it sorta feels good.

i could never be mad about it though...

[Quadrophonic84]

You're obviously unhappy since you wrote that question. What I'm saying is that in the long run, it slowly builds negative feelings and they come out in other ways. Communication is the key to a lasting relationship. Compromise is the door the key fits into. You've got to set boundaries for him or he will just keep pushing and pushing to get what he wants.

[udolipixie]

Finally some good advice.

[geassninja93]

its like a foot fetish I say go long with it...but some how make him pay for it

[yukiox]

if you do not like it and it makes you feel gross...don't do it. I understand that's his fetish or whatever but you can only make so many sacrifices for your partner's pleasure. tell him he's crossing the line and that he either likes you for your healthy self or he can find someone else.

[Asker]

but I love it when he rubs me like he does

[yukiox]

if you like it then what's the problem?

[Anonymous]

If you LIKE this then YOU are just as twisted as HE IS!

No one should ever do something (or say something) they don't want to to please someone else! YOU are obviously in to this or you wouldn't do it.

[curiouschica]

What kind of question is that..."should I go along with it?" Of course not! Be healthy for goodness sakes!

[kkandbb]

Oh! He's a feeder - I think that's what they're called. They want their lovers to be huge and get off on the massive weight and feeding them.

[Asker]

is that good or bad. I don't mind gaining weight...it's just a little strange. I think I could get used to it

[kkandbb]

For him it's excellent. If you're both happy with this then that's fine :) Maybe ask him what he thinks if you got larger - just so there's no confusion because I could be wrong, I don't think I am, but there's the possibility.

[Asker]

you sound right.

are you into that stuff?

[kkandbb]

No I'm not into that stuff personally but I have my own fetishes lol so to each their own :)

[Asker]

if you know...should I feed myself at home and get fatter for him?

[kkandbb]

I'm not too sure. I think, from what you've said, he gets off on feeding you so maybe don't just so you can eat more with him.. if you know what I mean.

[Anonymouspatron7]

He has what is called a fat fetish. Many men have them. I would suggest going along with it only if you are comfortable.

[hALLDAY]

That's weird ... don't go along with anything that could put your health at risk.

[geronimojoesaephus]

It's a fetish. If you like it, go along with it. If you don't, then don't. There it is. :)

[geronimojoesaephus]

from your comments, it seems like you like it. so go for it. eat that extra piece of cake. If you find out that you actually don't like it, then stop.

[geronimojoesaephus]

But it's not physically healthy. I'd that's OK with you then go ahead. You shouldn't have to look to the Internet for approval and it sounds like you already made the choice.

[elizabeth24]

thats super creepy. but if you want to fall for his weird fetish then go for it

[Theokr]

I want a girl friend that I can feed and rub her belly ;)

[douchelord]

That's just creepy...

[Anonymous]

Is he fat?