Guys, how to you show a girl you're truly into her, not just flirting?

[DishLady]

[Summeroflove]

If it’s consistent flirting. Not just flirting and then dropping off…. Or flirting to get easy sex. Or flirting for their own validation to see if you’ll flirt back and fluff their ego.

But it’s consistent effort that goes beyond just flirting. They are still interested in going out with you. When you initiate plans even if they’re genuinely busy they will generally try to work time into their schedule. And it’s not purely sexual.

If you’re not giving a man sex but are showing genuine romantic interest. And he leaves…. Well

[DishLady]

What about flirting without sex -- zero pressure but "crackling" energy buildup?
What about meeting up, but not "going out" and not openly sexual?

[Summeroflove]

It’s hard to say. It takes communication some people show effort different ways and it comes down to compatibility.

If someone’s being honest if you ask questions and asking you questions. Not just ignoring you or getting defensive. If they’re asking questions and genuinely getting to know you.

[Summeroflove]

Some people also see sex as a mission….
It’s a game. Some people will waste someone’s time just to see if they can get in their pants in the end.

Once they accomplish that. They vanish…. The funs over. They conquered that mission. Part of it’s just a ego thing…. If she eventually sleeps with me I must be attractive.

[DishLady]

Prime directive 😂.

[Summeroflove]

Eventually though most people will leave you alone or start to become more forward with what rheh want. Then you can know to leave

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't pressure women for sex. I don't do casual sex and if I am dating, it is in hopes of finding a long term partner. When I see a woman as a good candidate for an LTR, I tell her how I feel. I explain that I am sexually attracted to her and hope that part of our relationship will develop when she feels comfortable with it. That usually shows her that I am the real deal.

[Spencer10]

By communicating with her. Listening to her.

[DishLady]

Thank you. <3

[Anonymous]

Doing stuff for her. Eating for her whether it’s after work or something. Helping her w things at work. Getting her food or a drink. Going out of my way to see her even if I’m not in the vicinity of her location. Listening to her, doing little things for her. Protecting her not just verbally but physically.

[exitseven]

I was never flirty. I an either all in or not.

[Anonymous]

I don't even know how to flirt. I just look at a girl that I like... if she doesn't take initiative, I do nothing... I'm too shy.

[DishLady]

"I'm shy" is very 2025. It's 2026 and the balls have just dropped, right? I'd suggest taking some initiative, dude.

[Opinion Owner]

I can't, don't have any self-confidence.

[DishLady]

Something to work on this year. Come on, dude. Also, if you're SERIOUSLY defeatist, wtf are you doing on a relationship advisory group? No one wants to drag a guy into a relationship. Grow up a little. 5%

[Opinion Owner]

I know a two guys who were shy, just like me - But they were lucky... girls made the first move, and now they are both in a happy relationship. So, it's not a problem if a girl takes the initiative.

[DishLady]

Don’t count on a girl to do a guy’s job, man…. That’s weak game.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not "guys's job", I don't support patriarchy, and I prefer dominant girls.

[spartan55]

She gets girlfriend treatment.

[DishLady]

Meaning what?

[spartan55]

I find myself wanting to upgrade the relationship.

[DishLady]

How would she see that?

[spartan55]

By the way I treat her.

[DishLady]

🤦🏻‍♀️ circular logic. I give up.

[spartan55]

I don't what you are asking here.