Need brutal honesty on this gym crush situation because my brain is spiraling?

[Anonymous]

A few years ago I matched this guy on Bumble, but I killed it by constantly talking about how his friend rejected me (awkward af). We unmatched and never spoke again.
Now, whenever I go to the gym he usually trains at (not my regular spot, I only show up occasionally), he looks at me nonstop. Like, full eye contact through crowds in the mirror, watching my sets the whole time. Zero smiles, always dead serious/intense face. When I catch him looking and hold eye contact, he immediately starts going extra hard on his lift — like one time he ramped up back rows big time, extra reps/weight
Last week was weird: only open machine was cable kickbacks right in front of where he was sitting at the front desk. My butt was basically in his line of sight (not on purpose), and he jumped up within seconds, grabbed the vacuum, and started cleaning the floor like he needed to busy himself and not stare lol.
Also, recently he’s brought a girl with him twice while working out (I don't know if girlfriend, friend, or what — he’s usually solo).
So… does this sound like lowkey lingering interest/crush (maybe shy or awkward from the old Bumble mess)? Or is he just uncomfortable/annoyed I’m showing up at “his” gym? Or creep staring? The no-smile + vacuum dodge + beast mode after eye contact has me confused. Be brutally honest pls

[SueShe]

Most likely that the second option is what is happening here. He is annoyed that you are showing up, mainly in view of the fact that the gym is not your usual spot.

You seem to go more often than needed to that gym when you have an alternative place to go. The simpler thing would be just to refrain from going to that gym and stick with your usual one. That would avoid for him to feel uneasy to have you there all the time.

He is probably asking himself why you chose that gym when your usual one is available for you to be at.

No, he is definitely not interested in making contact again with you and you should take it that way.

[Anonymous]

Reading that was 3 minutes I wish I could get back again.

[Asker]

uh ok 👌

[spartan55]

You are investing 100 times the bandwidth he is about this. He is probably wondering why you watch him like a hawk constantly.
Why are you micro analyzing the guy so much? You blew it, remember? You certainly think pretty highly of yourself thinking he may be low-key interested. He is looking at you... that's it.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Here is brutal honesty then: I despise brutal honesty, it's too often exploited to beautify social awkwardness.

Your description of these gym scenes makes me look at a creep, because no-smile + beast mode makes me visualize some kind of meatbot about to mentally break down lol

[ohsheeT]

Stop. Lol focus on your workout. Keep your eyes off of him and just let things happen if you're wasting your time. Looking at him all day, and you're not getting a good workout maybe. That's what he wants to give you

[Cyfris]

Please find a new gym and leave this poor man alone.

[Alex-Snow]

Let it go and do not overthink it. Do your own thing and move on and forget about the Bumble fiasco.

[GrammariklyIncorrekt]

The no-smile/beast-mode is weird fs. Maybe he's just trying to impress you. And I'd say he's probably feeling awkward about the bumble thing

[Leahdk]

Sounds more uncomfortable than interested though the eye contact thing is weird. Either way probably best left alone. If he can’t be direct about what he things/feels best to just move in. Otherwise his just playing games

[LC75LC71]

Ok stalker.. Attention gym, we have a code 4 Jodi Arias alert!

[Asker]

whos the stalker? me or him lol

[LC75LC71]

You! Lol holy shit.

[Danny_dan92]

You’re there to workout. Not find dick

[In_Trance]

Tldr