Is this normal behavior for knowing each other for 3 months?

[Anonymous]

Is he using me for sex or is he just physically into me? Not going to lie we had sex one time and I didn't even get to finish. After that I guess he enjoyed it. We text everyday but he is always inconsistent this is since the beginning but I told him about this twice. He stops for a minute then does it again. I'm so frustrated that I just want to end it because I feel like he is too sexual too early and I'm not even a girlfriend yet. Other guys would ask me at this point. He leaves me on delivered but will be active on IG by reposting things for hours but does not message me back. He sent me these two reels at different occasions: one about if you're not afraid send this to someone you want to crack then the one today he sends about Its send your man a pu**y pic day. I just read and ignored the one he sent today. We've only been on one date and he barely spends money on me. Is that a red flag? I want to speak my mind so bad but I know it's going to come off harshly.

[HollyK21]

Let’s unpack a bit shall we?



“We text everyday but he is always inconsistent this is since the beginning but I told him about this twice. He stops for a minute then does it again.”

It sounds like you’ve already tried communicating the problem, and he isn’t receptive, only keeps doing what you’ve tried communicating is a problem. So I’m not sure what another conversation would change.



“He sent me these two reels at different occasions: one about if you're not afraid send this to someone you want to crack then the one today he sends about Its send your man a pu**y pic day. I just read and ignored the one he sent today.”
Disrespectful, vulgar af, unfunny and not sexy. Glad you ignored that.



“We've only been on one date and he barely spends any money on me”
How much money is spent on you isn’t the biggest deal in my opinion, but everyone is different. I’m mainly looking at you having only been on one date in 3 months.


“I'm not even a girlfriend yet. Other guys would ask me at this point.”



Closing out my assessment of this situation with the above line you wrote, ultimately to say this: you know that you know better. You know that overall this situation is not normal, it’s just fucked. 3 months is more than enough time, other men would’ve asked you out already, and this one is proving to be a user. So why are you still hanging on? I understand wanting to give a guy benefit of the doubt, give him a chance, but there should always be boundaries that any self-respecting woman would recognize are being crossed and walk away promptly.


It doesn’t matter what’s all transpired between you two — you can’t take or get any of it back. Not your time, not the sex, not your feelings, none of it. But you shouldn’t stick around because of those things, whether it’s been 3 months or 3 years. You stay because both the man and the relationship are giving you what you need and it sounds like all the evidence is before your eyes that you’re getting neither. If you’d like to have a deeper, more in depth conversation with him then have at it, but make it your final one and be ready to walk away if he doesn’t do better, because it sounds like you certainly could.

[Asker]

I did not include he works day and night shift and we live 2 hours apart. If that makes a difference. But I fully agree with what you're saying.

[Anonymous]

He’s just using you. Guarantee you if you said you want to suck him off tonight he’d respond, he’d have time to see you. In most new relationships both people are enamored by one another that they will text or call or both white often. I would expect what you’re saying now to be later in the relationship where things become routine that he doesn’t text or call as much, maybe Dec isn’t as much as it used to be. You’re not putting out so he’s decided not to make you a priority.

[spartan55]

You've had sex once in three month, you've been on one date, you really don't have anything.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah seems like it…..

[Danny_dan92]

He got what he wanted. Now doesn’t care about you

[Danny_dan92]

Side note… don’t know why you’re stressing over a guy who didn’t even satisfy you in the bedroom lmao like if he made you squirt all over the place then sure I can understand the attachment. Let the sad fuck go honestly