Is this normal in a long term relationship?

[Anonymous]

My Partner has a drug addiction, and he has treated me pretty badly over the years. In the past 18months he has thrown me out the house around seven times regarding his drug addiction. My mental health has deteriorated in the last year and I have been trying to get rehoused for me and my two children so I cannot be thrown out anymore. This has happened a few times but the last week he has been asking me if I’ve got another guy lined up, I have told him I’m looking to be rehoused so I can have some peace, but last night he asked me again if I was involved with another male, and he said he doesn’t want to have to end up slaughtering someone if i have, this is worrying me and I wonder if this is normal? He also was crying last night saying how he has messed everything up between us etc. I’m not sure if this is trying to scare me to stay or what the game is? Anyone help or opinion would be greatly appreciated as I am not in a good place at the moment

[Inbox]

…. okay, if you’re truly a 30 - 35 year old woman asking this, you’re either inexperienced, ignorant, or you know the answer but just looking for reinforcing opinions most likely. You should know better at this age.

I understand you were young and we’ve all chosen the wrong people in our life, but your first priority is to your kids. Kids should not grow up in such an atmosphere. Until his drug addiction is resolved, the kids stay far away because as you pointed out, druggies are unpredictable.

Also, his 180 extremes in behavior is predictable. In fairness I don’t know what kind of drugs he’s doing (even legal drugs addiction can happen), but if it’s illegal, you need to RUN. As a personal rule, I don’t date criminals because their crimes could come to me.

If he is this careless with his own family, odds are the cops won’t be far behind and while you don’t do drugs, you will most certainly be investigated and do you want to risk that black mark on your record? EMPLOYERS DO NOT LIKE CRIMINALS EVEN IF THEY WERE NOT FOUND GUITLY.

What’s going to happen to your kids when you can no longer provide? Empathetically speaking, it’s clear he recognizes his mistakes and feels remorse, but he’s from at least from what you’ve told us, not doing anything about it. RUN.

[teamvic]

Uhhh hell no its not you need to get far away from that mu fucka as you can. Also name sure he can't see or find anything about you. He's one unstable mu fucka

[Asker]

It’s bee scaring me him saying such words, as I’ve become very good friends with a guy who wants to help me and my situation

[teamvic]

Well then go with him and if it's really bad warn the police of what the other dude said

Last thing you wanna do is get someone else caught up in your situation and he gets hurt. But that guy is definitely a problem

[HelpfulWoman]

- you're a dumbass to put it simply.
DO NOT DATE ADDICTED PEOPLE. Pick up a piece of trash from a bin instead if you're that desperate.

[LazerBean]

Obviously it's not normal, but it is more normal for worthless druggies.

[Asker]

Just to clarify I am not a drug addict

[LazerBean]

No but being with one is not much better

[Staximus]

I don't know why you would make yourself dependent on a drug addict in the first place. Go stay with family or friends or something

[Asker]

I was very young when I met him, and was going through a lot of problems I was very vulnerable at the time