Have you ever missed a cue that someone was trying to kiss you?

[DishLady]

In a nutshell, A bunch of us were going to a comedy show organized by one of my friends. I met one of the guys for dinner beforehand -- my idea not his, so not "a date" to me on any level. It was freezing, so he got an uber... again, nothing crazy...

The night goes well. We're laughing our asses off and surrounded by people from church. We all took pics etc. and after a few of us took a walk to an after-party spot. Ofc *I* got in but the guys were told they could only come in with reservations. So I used the WC then headed back out to the guys. But a few of them were tired and went home and this one guy stayed to walk me home. We were walking but it was FREEZING. I shoved my hands in my pockets and he saw I was shivering so he put an arm around me. (He was SOO nice and warm I leaned into it instinctively. But we've been friends for such a long time now that I just didn't register it as anything more than concern.)

We ducked into a building lobby to stay warm and grab another uber, and I went home.

Next morning he asked if I was upset that we almost kissed.

And I had to confess that I didn't know what he was talking about. It was so... flattering but also awkward. I felt SO bad. :(

I've always been bad at reading signs of a guy-friend's interest. I genuinely just thought he was being kind bc it was so cold out.

What do y'all think?

[worldscolide]

Yeah actually, but I did it on purpose, a date was not going well. She was on her phone constantly.. So when I bid her good bye she tried to kiss me full on the mouth. I turned to my cheek.

[DishLady]

But you KNEW she was trying to kiss you. See I had no idea at all.

[OlderAndWiser]

First question: if you had realized his intentions, would you have wanted a kiss from him?

[DishLady]

No, o don’t see him that way AND ALSO less than a month ago he adamantly wanted to become a monk, so this was a little looney.

[DishLady]

(Sorry for the typos)

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, that all sounds a bit unsettled!

Some guys are shy and afraid to make their feelings known outright, so they look for convenient opportunities that will provide some plausible deniability if they have misread the situation. Perhaps that is what happened.

[CriminallyInsane]

I'd like to think I'm observant enough that I couldn't possibly miss that but maybe I have and never knew.,,

[spartan55]

I am the one distributing the cues, so I have no experience there.

[DishLady]

Fair enough.

[spartan55]

Oh-my-God... you are worse than a missing signals...🤷

[HawkPerception]

Maybe a bit TMI, but I think I missed the cue on a girl who wanted to sleep with me once. It was such a bizarre scenario and I didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable or anything, but looking back on it, I regret not trying to initiate anything. That was back when I was around 20 ish. As for kissing, I don't THINK I ever missed a cue, and the girls who did want to kiss me usually just went for it because of my lack of initiation.

[Iron_Man]

Most woman don’t try to kiss you they might want to be kissed but they don’t usually make the move the man does it

[DishLady]

Yeah but I don’t think I’ve ever missed cue before.

[exitseven]

Not that I know of but I was so clueless back then she could have led me into her bedroom and i would think she was just dragging me in there to show me her new bicycle. (a true story)

[FunkyMonkee]

Not that I can recall unless it was intentional that I missed it.

[Spencer10]

Hell yes. My mind reading skills are very poor.

[queenofcardio]

No, I'm very observant

[Caurav1997]

Well everyone wants to kiss you lol

[DishLady]

No that’s crazy.

[Caurav1997]

Trust me you're everyone's favorite
No one gonna miss opportunity to kiss you maam. 😊

[Staximus]

Yeah, but she didn’t make it very obvious

[AgentG111]

Yes.

[dudeinohio]

Yes i have.